Spiritual Woman

Small Kindnesses Matter

2012-01-27T18:24:00.000-08:00

It is amazing how much small kindnesses can matter. We may never know the effect a smile or kind word has on someone. I'm currently reading Streams of Contentment: Lessons I Learned on My Uncle's Farm by Robert J. Wicks. In that book, he shares this story from a collection by William Bausch:

The pastor of a small church received an envelope marked, "Please give to Harry the usher." The pastor put it in his pocket and didn't think much about it until he came across Harry on Sunday and then remembered to retrieve it for him.

The pastor stayed with the usher while he read the letter. Then, with tears in his eyes, Harry handed the letter to the priest, who read:

Dear Harry,

I'm sorry I don't know your last name, but then you don't know mine either. I'm Gert, Gert at the ten o'clock Mass every Sunday. I'm writing to ask you a favor. I don't know the priests too well, but somehow feel close to you. I don't know how you got to know my first name, but every Sunday morning you smile and greet me by name, and we exchange a few words: how bad the weather is, how much you like my hat, and how I am late on a particular Sunday. I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to remember an old woman, for the smiles, for your consideration, for your thoughtfulness.

Now for the favor. I am dying, Harry. My husband has been dead for sixteen years, and the kids are scattered. It's very important to me that when they bring me to church for the last time, you be there to say, "Hello, Gert. Good to see you." If you are there, Harry, I will feel assured that your warm hospitality will be duplicated in my new home in heaven.

With love and gratitude,
Gert

It was so easy to be a parent . . . before we had kids!

2012-01-26T18:13:00.000-08:00

I think most of us had some preconceived idea of what type of parents we would be before we had children. After all, we read the parenting books, websites, etc. We were educated and well-versed in child psychology! Our children would always be well-behaved and polite and would never embarrass us. We may even have explained the "right" way to parent to some of our friends.

And then, we actually had these children, who from day one were people in their own right with their own ideas about when they would sleep, what they would eat, and how they would behave. And we were humbled . . . sometimes daily.

I know I now try to refrain from giving parenting advice, unless directly asked, or I think it is REALLY, REALLY important. Because even though I have nearly 11 years of parenting experience under my belt, every child is different and what works with one will not necessarily work with another. Instead, I try to lend a sympathetic ear and reassure the struggling parent that this issue, whatever it may be, will pass. I have to remind myself of that frequently as well.

Erin Franco offers her own take on this subject in this article on Catholic Mom: Confessions of a Former Mommy Know-It-All

The Value of Silence

2012-01-25T18:31:00.000-08:00

Here is the Pope's Message for World Communications Day:

Dear Brothers and Sisters,
As we draw near to World Communications Day 2012, I would like to share with you some reflections concerning an aspect of the human process of communication which, despite its importance, is often overlooked and which, at the present time, it would seem especially necessary to recall. It concerns the relationship between silence and word: two aspects of communication which need to be kept in balance, to alternate and to be integrated with one another if authentic dialogue and deep closeness between people are to be achieved. When word and silence become mutually exclusive, communication breaks down, either because it gives rise to confusion or because, on the contrary, it creates an atmosphere of coldness; when they complement one another, however, communication acquires value and meaning.

Silence is an integral element of communication; in its absence, words rich in content cannot exist. In silence, we are better able to listen to and understand ourselves; ideas come to birth and acquire depth; we understand with greater clarity what it is we want to say and what we expect from others; and we choose how to express ourselves. By remaining silent we allow the other person to speak, to express him or herself; and we avoid being tied simply to our own words and ideas without them being adequately tested. In this way, space is created for mutual listening, and deeper human relationships become possible. It is often in silence, for example, that we observe the most authentic communication taking place between people who are in love: gestures, facial expressions and body language are signs by which they reveal themselves to each other. Joy, anxiety, and suffering can all be communicated in silence – indeed it provides them with a particularly powerful mode of expression. Silence, then, gives rise to even more active communication, requiring sensitivity and a capacity to listen that often makes manifest the true measure and nature of the relationships involved. When messages and information are plentiful, silence becomes essential if we are to distinguish what is important from what is insignificant or secondary. Deeper reflection helps us to discover the links between events that at first sight seem unconnected, to make evaluations, to analyze messages; this makes it possible to share thoughtful and relevant opinions, giving rise to an authentic body of shared knowledge. For this to happen, it is necessary to develop an appropriate environment, a kind of ‘eco-system’ that maintains a just equilibrium between silence, words, images and sounds.

The process of communication nowadays is largely fuelled by questions in search of answers. Search engines and social networks have become the starting point of communication for many people who are seeking advice, ideas, information and answers. In our time, the internet is becoming ever more a forum for questions and answers – indeed, people today are frequently bombarded with answers to questions they have never asked and to needs of which they were unaware. If we are to recognize and focus upon the truly important questions, then silence is a precious commodity that enables us to exercise proper discernment in the face of the surcharge of stimuli and data that we receive. Amid the complexity and diversity of the world of communications, however, many people find themselves confronted with the ultimate questions of human existence: Who am I? What can I know? What ought I to do? What may I hope? It is important to affirm those who ask these questions, and to open up the possibility of a profound dialogue, by means of words and interchange, but also through the call to silent reflection, something that is often more eloquent than a hasty answer and permits seekers to reach into the depths of their being and open themselves to the path towards knowledge that God has inscribed in human hearts.

Ultimately, this constant flow of questions demonstrates the restlessness of human beings, ceaselessly searching for truths, of greater or lesser import, that can offer meaning and hope to their lives. Men and women cannot rest content with a superficial and unquestioning exchange of skeptical opinions and experiences of life – all of us are in search of truth and we share this profound yearning today more than ever: “When people exchange information, they are already sharing themselves, their view of the world, their hopes, their ideals” (Message for the 2011 World Day of Communications).

Attention should be paid to the various types of websites, applications and social networks which can help people today to find time for reflection and authentic questioning, as well as making space for silence and occasions for prayer, meditation or sharing of the word of God. In concise phrases, often no longer than a verse from the Bible, profound thoughts can be communicated, as long as those taking part in the conversation do not neglect to cultivate their own inner lives. It is hardly surprising that different religious traditions consider solitude and silence as privileged states which help people to rediscover themselves and that Truth which gives meaning to all things. The God of biblical revelation speaks also without words: “As the Cross of Christ demonstrates, God also speaks by his silence. The silence of God, the experience of the distance of the almighty Father, is a decisive stage in the earthly journey of the Son of God, the incarnate Word …. God’s silence prolongs his earlier words. In these moments of darkness, he speaks through the mystery of his silence” (Verbum Domini, 21). The eloquence of God’s love, lived to the point of the supreme gift, speaks in the silence of the Cross. After Christ’s death there is a great silence over the earth, and on Holy Saturday, when “the King sleeps and God slept in the flesh and raised up those who were sleeping from the ages” (cf. Office of Readings, Holy Saturday), God’s voice resounds, filled with love for humanity.

If God speaks to us even in silence, we in turn discover in silence the possibility of speaking with God and about God. “We need that silence which becomes contemplation, which introduces us into God’s silence and brings us to the point where the Word, the redeeming Word, is born” (Homily, Eucharistic Celebration with Members of the International Theological Commission, 6 October 2006). In speaking of God’s grandeur, our language will always prove inadequate and must make space for silent contemplation. Out of such contemplation springs forth, with all its inner power, the urgent sense of mission, the compelling obligation “to communicate that which we have seen and heard” so that all may be in communion with God (1 Jn 1:3). Silent contemplation immerses us in the source of that Love who directs us towards our neighbours so that we may feel their suffering and offer them the light of Christ, his message of life and his saving gift of the fullness of love.

In silent contemplation, then, the eternal Word, through whom the world was created, becomes ever more powerfully present and we become aware of the plan of salvation that God is accomplishing throughout our history by word and deed. As the Second Vatican Council reminds us, divine revelation is fulfilled by “deeds and words having an inner unity: the deeds wrought by God in the history of salvation manifest and confirm the teaching and realities signified by the words, while the words proclaim the deeds and clarify the mystery contained in them” (Dei Verbum, 2). This plan of salvation culminates in the person of Jesus of Nazareth, the mediator and the fullness of all revelation. He has made known to us the true face of God the Father and by his Cross and Resurrection has brought us from the slavery of sin and death to the freedom of the children of God. The fundamental question of the meaning of human existence finds in the mystery of Christ an answer capable of bringing peace to the restless human heart. The Church’s mission springs from this mystery; and it is this mystery which impels Christians to become heralds of hope and salvation, witnesses of that love which promotes human dignity and builds justice and peace.

Word and silence: learning to communicate is learning to listen and contemplate as well as speak. This is especially important for those engaged in the task of evangelization: both silence and word are essential elements, integral to the Church’s work of communication for the sake of a renewed proclamation of Christ in today’s world. To Mary, whose silence “listens to the Word and causes it to blossom” (Private Prayer at the Holy House, Loreto, 1 September 2007), I entrust all the work of evangelization which the Church undertakes through the means of social communication.

From the Vatican, 24 January 2012, Feast of Saint Francis de Sales

Benedictus PP XVI

A Letter Every Teenage Girl Should Read

2012-01-25T17:11:00.000-08:00

I had the pleasure of sharing this letter from a loving mother to her daughter today on Catholic Lane: A Letter to My Daughter.

The heartache of teen romance is real. Looking back, I can remember the pain as if it were yesterday. This young woman is lucky to have a mother that understands. I hope that when the time comes, I can help my children navigate the difficult shores of young love the first time their hearts are broken as well.

Comfort in Care at Life's End

2012-01-24T18:38:00.000-08:00

I have such an appreciation and respect for those who work in hospice care. Hospice truly allows people to "die with dignity" and respects life all the way to its natural conclusion.

Karen Ann Quinlan was a young woman who, due to an accident, spent many years in a coma before her death. In her memory, her parents establish the Karen Ann Quinlan Hospice in northern New Jersey. From its relatively small beginnings, today it serves more than 100 patients a day.

To learn more, please read: Comfort in Care at Life's End

Why Laws Allowing Abortion are Bad Laws

2012-01-23T08:00:00.000-08:00

Today, as we join in prayer with those Marching in Life for Washington, I thought I would offer these words from Carl A. Anderson, the leader of the Knights of Columbus. He quotes Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.:

In his famous 1963 Letter from Birmingham Jail, he even relied upon the Catholic natural law tradition. King wrote: "One may well ask, 'How can you advocate breaking some laws and obeying others?' The answer is found in the fact that there are two types of laws: there are just and there are unjust laws. I would agree with St. Augustine that 'An unjust law is no law at all.'"

He continued, "Now what is the difference between the two? How does one determine when a law is just or unjust? A just law is a man-made code that squares with the moral law or the law of God. An unjust law is a code that is out of harmony with the moral law. To put it in the terms of Saint Thomas Aquinas, an unjust law is a human law that is not rooted in eternal and natural law."

A law "that is out of harmony with the moral law" can never be regarded as "settled" as long as there are men of conscience, men of determination and men who understand that our nation will be judged by the respect we give to every person - even to "the least among us."

Stand for Religious Freedom Petition

2012-01-22T18:58:00.000-08:00

The Obama Administration announced that Catholics MUST pay into insurance policies that cover abortion, contraception, and sterilization — NO conscience clauses will be accepted.

Cardinal-designate Timothy Dolan released this video: http://bcove.me/ob5itz9v

Please sign the petition to support Cardinal-designate Dolan and stand for religious freedom! It will be sent to President Obama, members of Congress, and HHS Secretary Sebelius: Stand for Religious Freedom Petition

Love Without Limits

2012-01-22T18:45:00.001-08:00

Today is the 39th Anniversary of Roe v. Wade. I think that most of the girls/women who have abortions do so because of fear - fear of what their parents will do to them if they find out they are pregnant, fear of what their boyfriend or husband will do, fear of the ways their lives would have to change if they had a chihttp://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifld, fear of what they might have to deal with if they give birth to a child who has already been diagnosed as being "different." Those fears are very real and very scary.

Having a child, even under the best circumstances, can be difficult. But, in the midst of the fear, God is there. If He has sent someone a child, there is a reason and that child is a gift.

Columbia Magazine dedicated its January 2012 issue to pro-life articles. One of the most beautiful is Love Without Limits about those who are raising children with Down Syndrome. Because Down Syndrome is frequently diagnosed before birth, these children are unfortunately aborted at a very high rate. Those who have opened their hearts and are raising children with Down Syndrome are sharing their stories to help alleviate some of the fear of those who are facing such a diagnosis.

Finding Peace in Unusual Places

2012-01-20T18:54:00.000-08:00

In the January 2012 issue of St. Anthony's Messanger, Charity Vogel shares a beautiful article on finding peace in cleaning her wood floor: Meditations on a Wood Floor.

She writes:

I center myself while I wipe those floorboards. I focus my thoughts, and oftentimes a decision or two comes to me in that time of concentration as well. Great monastics have taught for centuries that work can be prayer; that, in fact, it should be if we want to live in the world in the proper manner. The closest I've ever come to understanding what they mean is when I'm bent over a bucket, rinsing out my rag for another swipe. Ora et labora. Work and pray. Pray and work.

Peace and prayer can be found in unusual places - in the chores and activities that fill up our daily lives. The rhythmic, repetitive motions of many chores, such as washing dishes, or folding laundry, can be very soothing at times and allow the mind to focus and pray. Sometimes, we simply must find peace where we can!

To the Mother with Only One Child

2012-01-19T17:46:00.000-08:00

In Catholic circles, it can be hard to be the mother of a small family. When everyone around you has more than four children, it can be hard to be the mother of one or two. How can you complain that you are tired, or worn out, or that life is just not the bliss-filled ride that people sometimes make motherhood out to be, when the people around you obviously are juggling so much more?

This article by Simcha Fischer is so good and very honest: To the Mother with Only One Child. It's worth reading no matter how many children you have.

Book Review: Quiet

2012-01-18T18:22:00.000-08:00

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
by Susan Cain
New York: Crown Publishers, 2012

It isn't easy being an introvert. Susan Cain knows this and has written a very compelling book about why the world needs us, even if it doesn't think so! "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking" is a very interesting study of the differences between introverts and extroverts and how we balance each other. She examines when the world started to view extroversion as the ideal and some of the negative consequences of that. She also looked at some of the ways introverts try to make themselves appear more extroverted.

In doing research for this book, Cain attended a Tony Robbins seminar designed to help people be more successful in business and in life. Honestly, just reading about it made this introvert tired! Yet, introverts can be leaders, too, and Cain explains how to use our strengths to be effective in leadership roles.

She also examines how today's classrooms are designed to support extroverts with lots of group learning. While that in itself isn't a bad thing, Cain explores why students need independent learning as well. In fact, contrary to popular belief, she offers creativity actually thrives on independent pursuit rather than group brainstorming.

Still, introverts often do need to act like extroverts, at least some of the time. Most of us are able to do this - to conquer our fears of speaking in public or working in groups - if we believe in the cause or project we are working on. Cain offers suggestions on how to make the most of both our introvert qualities and the times we need to act out of character.

"Quiet" is an enlightening book and emphasizes how and why the world needs introverts. I would recommend it to any introverts as well as to extroverts married to or raising introverts. It is always helpful to understand the other side.

Springfield Diocese Catholic Women's Conference

2012-01-18T17:50:00.000-08:00

Jesuit Father James Martin, the author of "Between Heaven and Mirth," will be the keynote speaker at the 5th annual Catholic Women's Conference on April 21, 2012 at the Bellamy School in Chicopee, MA. He will talk on “Why Joy, Humor, and Laughter Are at the Heart of the Spiritual Life.” He also will speak about Ignatian spirituality and how to make a simple yet meaningful prayer each day. He notes in his book, "The Jesuit’s Guide to Almost Everything,” that “When we feel resistance to something in prayer, it’s often because we’re resisting God’s invitation to growth.” The Women’s Conference is issuing an invitation to all to grow!

In addition, Sister of Notre Dame Mary Johnson of Emmanuel College also will speak about “The Contemplative in You.” She is a noted sociologist and author. They will bring laughter and a renewed spirituality to the diocese. To register call (413) 452-0812.

Take a Catholic Course for Free!

2012-01-17T18:16:00.000-08:00

Catholic Courses is a new company offering some very well-known Catholic scholars speaking on topics such as "The Hidden Meaning of The Lord of the Rings," "Saints with a Past," "Shakespeare's Catholicism," and "Unveiling the Apocalypse."

Courses are offered via DVD, CD, or download. The best news is that you can download your first audio course for free! Visit http://www.catholiccourses.com/ for more information.

New "Little Angels" DVDs

2012-01-16T17:43:00.000-08:00

Many of you no doubt remember Roma Downey from the popular television program, "Touched by an Angel." Now, she is the producer of "Little Angels" - a series designed for preschoolers and kindergarteners. The videos are educational, with the angels helping to teach children the alphabet, numbers, and basic math using figures from Bible stories to help make their points.

You can read more about Roma Downey and the new series here: Roma Downey's Little Angels

Get a Good Night's Sleep: Pray, Hope and Don't Worry

2012-01-15T19:15:00.000-08:00

St. Padre Pio is known to have said, “Pray, Hope, and Don’t Worry.” Like most axioms, this one is easy to say and not so easy to put into practice. Yet, it is definitely worth the effort. Especially among women, anxiety is impacting every aspect of our lives, even our ability to sleep.

The New York Times recently published an article, Sleep Medication: Mother’s New Little Helper, which spoke about the growing problem of insomnia in women. There are many reasons why women can’t sleep – children being up during the night, hormones, hot flashes, etc. , but researchers have found that the main reason is actually anxiety. In the “Women and Sleep” study, 80 percent of women reported being just too stressed or worried to turn out the proverbial lights.

To make this matter even worse, the women in this study weren’t worried about huge, life-altering, matters. They were staying awake because they were concerned that a work email had come in when they weren’t paying attention, or that they had forgotten to sign a permission slip for their child, or what child’s activity was scheduled on what day. It’s no secret that we women have a lot on our plates, but we have to find some way to turn off the constant worry.

I’m not immune to this problem, either. I worry about a lot of things! I worry about whether my children will ever be able to write a coherent paragraph (they both have learning difficulties in this area), about the looming teen years, about them becoming productive members of society, about money concerns, about whether I will ever get the major project I am working on done before the deadline, about my parents getting older and needing more help, and the list goes on. If I wake up in the middle of the night, my mind does start to race and think of many issues I am dealing with. It isn’t so much that I wake up in the middle of the night. It is that it can be difficult to fall back to sleep.

Still, I do have a few suggestions to help reduce anxiety at night. One is to have some sort of relaxation routine before bed. You can’t work or watch television right up to the last minute, put on your pajamas and expect your mind to be ready to relax. I personally like to take a shower before bed. It helps wash away the problems of the day. I then say an act of contrition and a short prayer for protection before crawling under the covers. Other people may enjoy some leisure reading or meditation. Whatever works is good. The point is to have a true transition from the day to the night.

Another suggestion is to write down what is bothering you. This is especially helpful with the smaller problems of life. For example, if as I am trying to quiet my mind for sleep, things I need to remember to do come to mind, I will actually get up out of bed and write them down. That way, I know I will see the note in the morning and be able to act on it. It is now on paper and out of my mind.

As for those middle of the night worry sessions, my best suggestion is to pray through those. I say the rosary. The repetitive nature of the prayers helps calm my mind. Very rarely do I get through more than a decade or two before I am once again sleeping peacefully. I was once asked if I thought it was disrespectful to say the rosary in this fashion. I don’t think so at all. I am praying rather than worrying, turning my problems over to God. Plus, I am going to sleep in the Lord. What could be better than that?

I hope that some of these suggestions help you get those much-needed nights of sleep. Do you have any suggestions for helping to tame anxiety during the night? If so, please share them in the comments!

Are You There, God?

2012-01-13T17:56:00.000-08:00

I was feeling pretty badly today - no specific reason, really. It's January - for me, that seems to be reason enough. (Is it spring, yet?) Add in hormones, stress, lack of sleep - bad mental health seems to go hand in hand with all of it.

In any event, I happened to open my January 2012 copy of St. Anthony's Messenger and came across this article by Susan Hines-Brigger: Are You There, God?

Hines-Brigger shares some of the difficult things going on in her life right now and how they affect her relationship with God. It can be very hard to trust in God when you are hurting (whatever the reason behind that hurt). It can be hard to see any value to life, to feel blessed at all. In any event, this article was just what I needed to read today - my own personal message from God from the hands of a fellow writer. If you are going through a rough time, it might help you, too.

Speakers for New England Homeschool Conference Announced

2012-01-12T17:46:00.000-08:00

The New England Catholic Homeschool Conference just announced its speakers for this year. There is a great line-up, including Danielle Bean, the new editor of Catholic Digest. Check it out here: New England Catholic Homeschool Conference

Fighting Doctor Assisted Suicide in Massachusetts

2012-01-11T18:01:00.000-08:00

While obviously NOT giving up the fight against abortion, a large focus of the pro-life effort in Massachusetts this year is fighting against Doctor-Assisted Suicide. It looks like there will be a question on our ballot in November to make this legal. We can't let this happen. We need to respect life from conception to natural death.

Ways that you can help us fight:

Find out more about Doctor-Assisted Suicide: Stop Assisted Suicide - MA.com

Donate to Mass Citizens for Life to help them wage a coordinated campaign against this: http://www.masscitizensforlife.org/

What the Saints Said About Heaven

2012-01-10T18:38:00.000-08:00

I'm adding What The Saints Said About Heaven: 101 Holy Insights On Everlasting Life to the books I really want to read list.

Here is the description:

There are thrilling promises in Scripture but not an abundance of detail about the nature of heavenly existence. Another source of insight and hope can be found in the writings of the saints throughout history.

What the Saints Said About Heaven: 101 Holy Insights on Everlasting Life combines Scriptural passages, saintly writings, and prayers from the heart, all organized into a daily meditation format.

It provides inspiring thoughts on subjects such as: What the Beatific Vision will be like, on being in heaven with loved ones, about Angels, Saints and what we will do in our resurrected bodies.

What the Saints Said About Heaven is the ideal gift for every Christian, and serves as an encouraging reminder that each day we spend on earth is a preparation for the ultimate joy of life to come.

Free Virtual Catholic Homeschooling Web Conference

2012-01-09T17:59:00.000-08:00

February is known as “Burnout Month” in homeschooling circles. The busyness of the holidays have come and gone. Field trips and outside activities are at a minimum due to cold and snow. Yet there’s still three to four months to go. It’s the month many homeschoolers begin to doubt their resolve and question their educational approach. Some even begin to think about throwing in the towel.

For this reason, Homeschool Connections, a Catholic online curriculum provider, is very happy to announce something extraordinary: Refresh! Midwinter Virtual Conference.

Beginning in mid-January and through the end of February, Catholic homeschoolers will get a chance to renew, rejuvenate, and recharge.

Homeschool Connections’s Refresh! Midwinter Virtual Conference! is a series of free webinars (online seminars) with popular national speakers who will provide both inspiration and practical help for the everyday task of homeschooling.

Speakers and topics include:

Nancy Brown: Finding Levity in Your Homeschool; A Chestertonian Principle

E. B. Conroy: Simplified Writing; What Your High School Student Needs to Succeed

Regina Doman: Which Comes First, the Character or the Plot?

Kris Correira: Science by Inquiry

Andrew Schmiedicke: Is Our Faith a Fairy Tale?

Mary Ellen Barrett: The Well Socialized Homeschooler: Embracing the Weird and Debunking the Myth

Rachel Watkins: Little Flowers Club; Having Fun While Learning the Faith

Laurie Gill: Keep Doing What You’re Doing

Speakers and topics are still being added.

Conference Website: http://homeschoolconnectionsonline.com/webinar-catalog/refresh-midwinter-homeschool-conference/

Catholic parents also have free access to recordings of past webinars with such speakers as Danielle Bean, Mary Kay Clark, Maureen Wittmann, and more at: http://homeschoolconnectionsonline.com/webinar-catalog/past-webinars/

Time to Simplify . . . Again!

2012-01-08T18:24:00.000-08:00

Two years ago during Lent, I embarked on a forty bags in forty days project. The http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifidea, which came from Faith and Family, was to rid one’s house of forty bags of excess material goods – ideally through giving items away, although some items definitely deserve a place in the trash. I’ve decided it’s time to do it again. No, it isn’t Lent and I most likely won’t be able to accomplish my goal in forty days this time, but I desperately need to get rid of things.

While some people seem to be able to maintain well-ordered houses all the time, mine seems to attract clutter the way refrigerators attract magnets (did I mention that I have too many of those as well?). Some of it, I have little control over. After all, I don’t live alone and I need to respect my husband’s and children’s needs and desires as well. I can encourage them to live more simply and to give away what they no longer need, but no matter how much I might want to, I cannot simply bag up all their possessions and bring them to the local thrift shop. Part of loving other people is making the sacrifice of living with their “stuff.”

Still, I can set a good example and reduce what is within my power to do so. Right now, the sheer amount of stuff is weighing me down. Mary Ann Otto writes of a similar problem in “Boxing Day,” featured in the January 2012 issue of U.S. Catholic:

We tend to store things long after they have outlived their usefulness. I am not sure why; perhaps we document our life with them. Maybe letting go of them reminds us of our own mortality, with the realization that we will not be taking a U-Haul with us into the next life.

Jesus warns us against storing up treasures on earth. There is a reason: I find the more I keep unnecessary items, the more difficult it is to be at peace and in solidarity with Christ’s teachings. I am often distracted by clutter, and there is little doubt others could benefit from my surplus possessions.

There is obviously nothing wrong with owning things. We all need some items – things that are necessary for life, as well as things that are simply beautiful and bring us pleasure, and those items which have a strong emotional value. Yet, most of us own many things that don’t fit into any of those categories, items that we don’t use and which could be doing someone else some good. Those are the items I’m seeking to rid my life of.

I want to live a generous life. This is one way to do that, a simple way to share what I have been blessed with. I have never regretted giving something away. I have found that generosity is always rewarded. If I am generous with others, I trust that when the time comes that I need something, others will be generous with me. I have definitely found that to be the case.

I know I will never completely get rid of all the extraneous items in my life. No doubt, a couple years from now, I will once again desperately need to do a major decluttering. It is one of those on-going battles. Letting go of things is not always easy, however, it is necessary, for both my mental and spiritual health. Let the bagging begin!

Keeping Things in Perspective

2012-01-06T17:55:00.000-08:00

The January 2012 issue of US Catholic is focused on women and the Church. It offers much food for thought. Kathleen P. Hockey writes about her parish community, where the "church is full on Sunday with women and men serving at the altar, the veiled and jean-clad all kneeling together, worshiping in genuine camaraderie."

She continues, "This kind of parish community is why I remain faithful. It gives me hope that in spite of the polarization and injustice so often talked about and bemoaned, in many corners of the church world, tolerance, equality, and charity prevail quietly.

"There is one more thing that keeps me faithful. It is the realization that our church is a global church. While I am safe and sound in the United States, both male and female Catholics in other countries are being suppressed or exterminated for the faith. Willingness to die rather than not be Catholic makes the pettiness here seem downright sinful."

Here in the U.S., we Catholics can sometimes be downright nasty to each other. It is truly one of my pet peeves. We who call ourselves Christian should be kind to each other. We can disagree, but we should be kind. But, in this country, we have the luxury of being able to practice our faith, and argue about all the particulars. Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, we don't appreciate that fact.

People die for our faith all the time. Thank you to Kathleen Hockey for reminding us how blessed we are to be here.

Massachusetts Residents: Do You Want to be a Quest Detective?

2012-01-05T18:02:00.000-08:00

I saw an article about this in my local paper and it seemed like it would be a fun activity for homeschoolers or any family looking to learn a bit more about where we live. The Trustees of Reservations here in Massachusetts offer "Quests" to help people learn more about specific sites. In my area of the Pioneer Valley, they offer one about Holyoke, MA - an old mill town. Find out more here: The Trustees Quest Detective

Evangelizing Mowgli

2012-01-04T18:12:00.000-08:00

Evangelizing Mowgli is a new work of Catholic Fiction by James Penrice:

Jeremiah Rhys joined the Brothers of St. Aurelius to care for orphans. While in India he learns of a boy raised by wolves in the jungle--and hated by villagers who tried to kill him. Moved to find the boy and bring him the Good News of God’s love, Jeremiah journeys to Rudyard Kipling’s enchanted jungle in search of Mowgli. There he discovers http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifa world of unexpected wisdom and grace, enlivened by Mowgli’s Franciscan-like camaraderie with the animals: Baloo the bear, Bagheera the panther, Kaa the python, Hathi the elephant, and others. The jungle provides insights into love, mercy, humility, courage, and the sanctity of all creation, lessons Jeremiah never thought possible outside the “civilized” world. Its dangers confront Jeremiah with his weakness, and how his frailty holds the key for God’s power to work through him.

Excerpt from Chapter Five:

“Mowgli, there is someone very wonderful, very powerful, and very, very good, who made this world and put us here in it.”

The eagerness in Mowgli’s eyes turned quickly to a cynical glare.

“You speak of a god?” the boy asked in a deflated voice. He threw a stick into the fire with a disgusted fling. “I know of gods. The cruel villagers believe in them.”

Like many children Jeremiah ministered to, Mowgli had been hurt by adults who should have known better. Keeping this in mind, Jeremiah gently continued.

“Yes, Mowgli,” he replied. “I speak of a god. One who made you and me, and who led me here to find you.”

Mowgli momentarily regained interest, assuring Jeremiah he had permission to continue. Pausing a moment to think, he continued along a wider track.

“Look at the two of us,” said Jeremiah. “Our skins are different colors; we come from very far-away places. You have lived among animals in the jungle, I among men in villages. But we are so much alike. I know you realize that. I saw it when you told Kaa to release me by the look in my eyes alone. I see it in your eyes now.”

Mowgli nodded slowly. “I know we are of one blood,” he said. “Just as Messua and I are of one blood. But the rest of men want to spill my blood—men who also speak of gods and fear them.”

Mowgli squinted at Jeremiah, as it seemed they had veered off the subject.

“What does your god have to do with any of this? Why do you speak of gods when I asked about your dead friend? Was he a god?”

Jeremiah knew a broader foundation must be laid to answer this question. He also knew he had enough of the boy’s attention and trust to continue to try.

“You and I are of one blood, Mowgli, because we have the same Father.”

The scrunch of the boy’s eyebrows was expected. Jeremiah smiled and continued.

“I do not mean the fathers we lost as children. I mean God, Mowgli. There is one true God who fathered all creation and filled it with his love.”

Mowgli trusted Jeremiah, and it was this trust alone that kept his ears and heart attentive to his friend’s bewildering theory. This “God” was obviously important to Jeremiah; on that basis alone Mowgli knew he must listen and respect—and try to understand. But there was so much that was confusing.

“The people of the village who stoned me, the animals who try to kill me, they are made by this same God of love?”

“They are, Mowgli,” replied Jeremiah, “as strange as that sounds.”

“Then why is there not the same love, the same bond as between you and I?”

Jeremiah was excited the boy was interested enough to ask questions, and was energized by his curiosity.

“God made the same loving bond with all, but everyone must choose whether to keep it or break it,” said Jeremiah, “because God wants his creatures to return his love of their free decision. Some break the bond completely and turn bad, but even good people break it to some extent. And it is for that reason that my friend came to be.”

And in the soft moon of a warm summer night, Jeremiah opened his heart to Mowgli, and shared the Savior that lived within.

Find out more at: Evangelizing Mowgli

Latin Makes a Comeback

2012-01-03T18:36:00.000-08:00

When I started high school, I was eager to start studying Latin. It just seemed so scholarly! I ended up taking three years there and went on to take a year of Ecclesiastical Latin in Graduate School. I'm now teaching my children some very basic Latin as part of their schooling.

I've always thought Latin was very cool. My children don't quite share my enthusiasm, but apparently quite a few people do. Latin is making a resurgence. Read more about it here: Latin Makes a Comeback

A Wonderful Pro-Life Story

2012-01-02T18:22:00.001-08:00

A 100 Year Old Woman is reunited with the daughter she had to give up for adoption after she was raped: http://news.yahoo.com/mom-reunites-biological-child-77-years-later-201717607.html

A Simple Act of Gratitude

2012-01-02T17:46:00.000-08:00

The January 1st issue of Parade Magazine featured an article by John Kralik, author of A Simple Act of Gratitude: How Learning to Say Thank You Changed My Life. He tells how in 2008, he made a decision to do a year of "thank-yous" - to write notes to all sorts of people who had helped him in one way or another.

He writes, "This project transformed my life. I saw how much I had been blessed by so many people in different ways, and acknowledging their blessings seemed to make them multiply. After I thanked colleagues for directing cases to me, they referred more. When I expressed gratitude to clients for paying promptly, they began doing so even more quickly.

"Something more subtle occurred, too. With my thank-you notes, I was trying to tell people how much their kindness meant to me. As they responded, that same message was reflected back."

He then went on to write A Simple Act of Gratitude: How Learning to Say Thank You Changed My Life about the experience.

I put aside the article, planning to write about this week (and so I am!) because I thought it was a wonderful idea. But, then, as if to emphasize the point, I'm pretty sure I became a recipient of one of these letters! On New Year's Day, an old acquaintance from high school wrote me to tell me how much she enjoyed my columns at Catholic Mom and that she had also found my book Letters to Mary from a Young Mother (now available in Kindle format as well) very helpful now that she was the mother of a fourteen month old. That letter totally made my day and I told her so!

So, take the time to thank someone today who has made a positive difference in your life - large or small. It could make a whole world of difference to them!

Finding God in the Everyday

2012-01-01T18:12:00.000-08:00

Time has gone by quickly, but it has been eight years since I started The Spiritual Woman website. While this blog has supplanted the website (although I keep it for the articles archived there), my mission has remained the same - I have always wanted to help women find God in the everyday busyness of their lives.

I walk in those shoes. I know how crazy life can be - how hard it is to pray and focus on God when children (especially young children) need your attention, and your to-do list is overflowing with tasks. I know how easy it is to serve everyone else and forget to nurture yourself.

But, we women need to feed the well first. If we aren't rooted in God, then we can't go out and serve our families to the best of our abilities. God matters. Prayer matters (even if it happens while showering, or pushing a stroller, or making supper). God is there with us in the housework and the childcare and the hundreds of tasks that fill our days. We just need to pay attention.

Aileen O'Donoghue offered this take on the subject in her reflection for December 31, 2011 in
While we can definitely find God in the extraordinary moments of life, often in a heightened way, we simply need to notice to see Him in the more simple moments. God is there in both the beauty and the messiness of life. He is there in the sunrise, and the crying child, and the toddler holding up his arms to be picked up, and a friend's smile, and the neighbor who needs a favor, and the store clerk, and the animals who share our lives, and the green sprout poking it's way through the earth, and the teenager trying so hard to figure out where she belongs in the world, and the older person so eager to share his stories with anyone who will listen, and the list goes on and on.

And so, today, I invite you to pause in the midst of the craziness, take a deep breath (God is there in the air, too!) and truly pay attention to finding God in the everyday. Then, say a quick prayer of thanksgiving that God is right there with you.

Where did you find God today?

A New Year's Prayer

2011-12-29T18:06:00.000-08:00

I was going to go in search of a New Year's Prayer to post for this weekend, but instead I thought I'd go more simple.

Dear God,

This year, please help me to know what you want me to do and please give me the strength to do it.

Amen.

I wish you all a very Happy New Year. May 2012 be a happy and blessed one for each of you!

Prayer to St. Jude for the Depressed

2011-12-28T17:18:00.000-08:00

I was cleaning out my prayer drawer today and came across this prayer. It seemed particularly appropriate for this time of year which is so difficult for those of us who suffer from depression. (Thankfully, I've been doing better than I usually am this time of year, but I know the darkness can settle in at any moment. I'm taking life one day at a time.)

St. Jude, friend to those in need, I am weary from grief, without joy, without hope, struggling through the dark night of the soul. I turn to you, most trusted friend. Take away this emptiness and the pain of my broken heart. In your compassion, wipe away the tears and carry me to a place of peace. Too long have I been blind to the goodness of God's world. Heal me. I yearn to feel, to bathe in light and joy. Envelop me in brightness and do not hold back. And I promise, if you should see me fit to receive these gifts, I will share them always. Amen.

Support for Caregivers

2011-12-27T17:49:00.000-08:00

If you or someone you love is a caregiver, the Friends of St. John the Caregiver offers a wealth of free information to help - available both online and in paper form.

Here is just a sampling of the topics covered at YourAgingParent.com:http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif

The Stages of Caregiving
Alcoholism and Aging
Dealing with Caregiver and Care-receiver Anger
Helping Your Parent to Give Up the Car Keys
In Case of an Emergency or a Disaster
Dealing with Caregiver Guilt
If You Are a Long-Distance Caregiver
When You're Married to the Caregiver
When Mom or Dad Moves In
The Stations of the Cross for Caregivers
The Role of Spirituality in a Caregiver's Life
Taking Care of a Crabby or Formerly Abusive Parent
Dementia and Alzheimer's Disease

Searching for Gregorian Masses?

2011-12-26T17:43:00.000-08:00

I was on the Divine Mercy Shrine in Stockbridge, MA website to request a Mass for my friend that needs healing, and I discovered that they offer Gregorian Masses as well!

Gregorian Masses are thirty Masses offered for the repose of the soul of someone who has died. My mother had them said for her father when he died and she requested that I do the same for her and my father when their time comes. I figured when that day came, I would do an on-line search and find a place to send away for them. I am so excited to discover that they are available at the Divine Mercy Shrine because that is truly one of my most favorite places.

To find out more about Gregorian Masses and their availability at the Shrine, please visit https://secure.marianweb.net/marian.org/mass/gregorian.php

Prayer Request

2011-12-26T17:33:00.000-08:00

One of my dearest friends (she has been my friend since we were six. Today we only talk a few times a year, but we are still very close) is going through a very tough time right now. She called me last night for Christmas and told me she had just been released from the hospital after spending 3 weeks there. She is suffering from both mental and physical illnesses, and recently lost her job as well. She could really use some prayers. Thank you!

Merry Christmas

2011-12-23T18:39:00.001-08:00

I wish all of you a very Merry and Blessed Christmas.

(The painting is "Kissing the Face of God" by Liz Lemon Swindle)

Book Review: A Lancaster County Christmas

2011-12-23T18:05:00.001-08:00

Lancaster County Christmas, A
by Suzanne Woods Fisher
Grand Rapids: Revell Publishing, 2011

Even though I traveled to Lancaster County last year and found it to be absolutely nothing like I had imagined, I still enjoy reading Amish fiction, and "A Lancaster County Christmas" did not disappoint. Jaime first encounters the Amish family that will change her life at a doctor's office. She is there seeking a prescription for sleeping pills to help her bury the grief she feels at the loss of her mother. Mattie is there because she has recently miscarried and is suffering the pain of not having another child. Mattie's son Danny is six years old and happy to talk to anyone who would listen. He and Jaime forge a connection over an owl whistle. When Danny leaves it behind in the office, the doctor asks her to please return it to the family.

Jaime's whole life is on the rocks, totally upended by her mother's death. Her marriage is suffering and she just quit her job. Never very religious, she feels threatened by her husband C.J.'s new found faith. In light of recent events, she and God are definitely not on speaking terms. Mattie has a deep faith, but she can't shake her sadness and finds herself overly protective of the child she does have. She worries about everything and no matter how hard she tries, can't find peace.

When Jaime's car slides into a pond on Mattie's property and a large snowstorm hits, the two families are thrown together for Christmas. Over the course of the holiday, miracles will happen, hearts will warm, and faith in God will be rediscovered.

People, myself included, enjoy Amish fiction because it emphasizes getting back to basics and appreciating simple joys. My favorite line from the book comes from Mattie's husband Sol. He is praying after breakfast and says "The days available to say a kind word to someone this year are rapidly drawing to a close. Lord God, teach us to be kind." That's a good message to take with us every day of the year.

This is a feel-good book. A short book, it is a compelling story that offers a touch of mystery that will keep you turning pages and leave you smiling at its conclusion.

In our Homeschooling World Today . . .

2011-12-22T18:22:00.000-08:00

I know it isn't Christmas related, but we had a fun science class today dissecting a cow's heart. I teach 5th grade science to my two boys and two of their friends each week. We have been using the Behold and See book from Catholic Heritage Curricula and this was one of the activities for Chapter 5. I had never done anything like this before and it was really very interesting. (one of the perks of homeschooling is that I get to learn new things, too!)

Finding Joy This Christmas

2011-12-21T18:23:00.000-08:00

This quote comes courtesy of Monsignor David Joyce writing at www.cursillowmass.org.

Joy is a gift. But it is also a virtue, which we can develop and nourish. When we see it in others, we know it's there, although we're hard pressed to define and describe it. . . The joyful person has within himself a core conviction: God is present - his Son nourishes me - the Spirit guides me - what more do I need?

How do I get that joy? Can I buy it? Isn't that sometimes the temptation of Christmas - if we have enough "stuff," everybody will be joyful. Experience has taught most of us that the opposite is often true.

Most importantly, we can pray for that gift, and then we can nourish it by thanksgiving - gratitude for life - my own and the lives of those whom I love and who love me - despite our shortcomings. . .

And so when I wish you a merry and joyful Christmas, I'm not wishing you something external to yourself. No, I'm hoping you'll open your heart to the Son of God, Jesus, who already makes his home within you, and who is your source of joy - in this season and always.

Feast of St. Peter Canisius

2011-12-20T17:39:00.000-08:00

December 21st is the feast day of St. Peter Canisius (1521 - 1597).

Here is a quote by him which seems particularly appropriate for this time of year:

If you have too much to do, with God's help you will find time to do it all.

Two New Saints to be Named!

2011-12-20T17:35:00.000-08:00

Pope Benedict XVI advanced the sainthood causes of Blessed Marianne Cope of Molokai and Blessed Kateri Tekakwitha.

During a meeting Dec. 19 with Cardinal Angelo Amato, prefect of the Congregation for Saints' Causes, the pope signed the decrees recognizing the miracles needed for the canonizations of Blesseds Marianne and Kateri.

Before a date is set for the canonization ceremonies, there must be an "ordinary public consistory," a formal ceremony opened and closed with prayer, during which cardinals present in Rome express their support for the pope's decision to create new saints.

Blessed Marianne, who worked as a teacher and hospital administrator in New York, spent the last 30 years of her life ministering on the Hawaiian island of Molokai to those with leprosy. She died on the island in 1918 at age 80 and was beatified in St. Peter's Basilica in 2005.

Blessed Kateri, known as the Lily of the Mohawks, was born to a Christian Algonquin mother and a Mohawk father in 1656 in upstate New York along the Hudson River. She was baptized by a Jesuit missionary in 1676 when she was 20, and she died in Canada four years later. In June 1980, she became the first Native American to be beatified.

From The Vatican News Service

An Art Museum in a Book

2011-12-19T18:16:00.001-08:00

I saw The Art Museum
today and just had to blog about it! It's an art museum in a book. Oversized (3 feet across when open) and weighing over 17 pounds, it features over 2,500 large images of works of art.

This volume contains an unprecedented wealth of masterworks spanning three millennia and culled from 650 museums, galleries and private collections from 60 countries. It is organized by innovative color-coded, galleries, rooms, corridors and special exhibitions, which display the paintings, sculptures, frescos, photographs, tapestries, friezes, installations, performances, videos, woodblock prints, folding screens, ceramics and manuscripts that tell the history of world art.

It's not too late to order this book as a Christmas present for the art lover in your life. It would also be wonderful for a classroom. It retails for $200, but Amazon is selling it for half price!

The Wait is Almost Over

2011-12-18T18:44:00.000-08:00

“I can’t take waiting any more!” My nine-year-old son emphatically announced. “I want to open my presents.”

“But that is what Advent is for. It is a time of waiting,” I responded, attempting to reinforce a bit of religious instruction in the midst of the whining.
“Advent is twenty-eight days of torture!”

I don’t think that he actually believes that Advent is torture. After all, we do lots of fun things during Advent to prepare for Christmas. But, I do understand where he is coming from. As a child, December seemed an interminable stretch of days. Time moved in slow-motion. It seemed to take so long for each candle on the Advent wreath to be lit. Would Christmas ever come? It takes time to realize that the waiting can actually be part of the joy. Anticipating an event and preparing for it can sometimes be just as exciting as the event itself!

My children don’t have much longer to wait, even though they might think that they do. As an adult, Advent seems to pass by in a blur each year. My life is in a constant state of fast-forward. How can it be time to get ready for Christmas already? Didn’t we just do this?

In light of this phenomenon, I can’t honestly say that I wait for Christmas day any more. Still, from a spiritual perspective, I know what it is to wait. I wait for answers to prayers, for healing for all those who are hurting in some way, for peace in my family and in the world, and for the type of joy that is everlasting. I know that the coming of December 25th won’t end the waiting for those types of wishes, even though in my life I have been blessed by at least a couple of Christmas miracles.

Yet, instead of viewing the wait as something painful, I can look forward with anticipation. I know that in God’s time, all my dreams will be fulfilled. In light of eternity, the wait isn’t long at all. God became man to save us from sin, to reopen the doors of heaven for us, to bring us peace, and healing, and joy. That tiny baby in the manger offers the answer to all of our deepest desires. We simply need to trust, and hope, and wait.

I wish you all a very blessed Christmas.

Do the Next Right Thing

2011-12-16T18:10:00.001-08:00

Lots of people talk about the importance of making plans in life - the five year plan, the ten year plan, etc. I've never had much luck with those, however. Sure, I have dreams of what I'd like to do and accomplish, but then life (God?) happens and I end up on a different road.

Therefore, I like the idea of doing the next right thing. Often, that is as far down the road as I can see.

This was a quote from Joyful Meditations for Every Day of Advent for today:

Our best first remedy is prayer. Asking God to show us the next right thing to do helps us to get unstuck, stop feeling sorry for ourselves, find clarity in our thinking, bring order to our lives, and treat others with respect and dignity. We might need to ask God to show us the next right thing to do a hundred times a day.

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2011-12-15T17:31:00.000-08:00

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The Posada

2011-12-14T18:28:00.000-08:00

I had heard about "The Posada" - the Spanish Christmas tradition, but I never knew much about it until I read this article in Columbia Magazine: Making Room at the Inn

The Christmas Posada, celebrated in many Latin American countries today, is a prayer, a play and a party all in one. The name means "inn" or "shelter" in Spanish and is generally celebrated with a novena from Dec. 16 -24 in preparation for the birth of Christ. These nine days symbolize Mary's pregnancy, the journey of Mary and Joseph to Bethlehem, and their search for a place to stay - as recounted in Luke 2:1-7.

The Knights of Columbus also have a free booklet to download about The Posada:

The Posada - An Advent and Christmas Celebration

We Have the Power to Change

2011-12-13T18:34:00.000-08:00

Over the years, I've really given up hope that Advent will ever be the same quality of religious experience that Lent is. There are simply too many other things to do during Advent to get ready for Christmas. It doesn't allow that dedicated focus on spiritual matters that Lent provides. Still, I do try to do a couple of small things to reflect on the true meaning of this season. This year, one of those is reading a special reflection for each day out of Joyful Meditations for Every Day of Advent by Fr. Warren Savage and Mary Ann McSweeny. This was part of today's reflection:

It takes courage and humility to change. We may have developed certain habits during our lifetime that are based in fear, shame, or anger. We may have learned to cope with difficult life situations by manipulating others, by becoming addicted to alcohol, food, or gambling; or by letting others define who we are. However, whatever unhealthy patterns we may have acquired, we have the right to be the sons and daughters of God. We have the power to change at any time and live life more freely and lovingly.

Meeting Teens Where They Are

2011-12-12T18:02:00.000-08:00

It is a scary fact in my life that I will be soon be the mother of teenagers. Every day, they get a little bit closer, and the teen "years" seem to start younger than they used to. Just the other day, I had a conversation with my boys about "sexting" and why this was never a good idea. These are not conversations I enjoy, but they need to be had. Navigating the teen years is going to be a challenge!

Keeping them rooted in their faith is going to be a challenge as well. I know that those years are a time of questioning and that it will not be enough for them to practice their faith because their mom does. They will need to make it their own. To that end, I read articles like this one with great interest: Mark Hart's Advice for Meeting Teens Where They Are

Coping with Sibling Rivalry

2011-12-11T18:46:00.000-08:00

If you have a sibling or more than one child, chances are that you have dealt with the ugly green monster that is sibling rivalry. In a perfect world, children born of the same parents or adopted into the same family would always love, honor, and respect each other. They would share without complaint, applaud each other’s successes, and be happy to not be the center of Mom and Dad’s attention all of the time. But, alas, this is an imperfect world, and sibling rivalry has existed since the days of Cain and Abel. We aren’t going to be able to root it out completely. So, then, our only hope is to attempt to minimize it.

Truthfully, my two boys get along well most of the time – emphasis on most. There are certainly times that one or the other or both have wished (loudly!) that they were only children, but usually they are content to enjoy each other’s company. They are close in age – a mere nineteen months apart – and share many interests and friends which is a blessing. Lately, however, we have been dealing with a serious case of sibling rivalry.

The two of them are taking acting classes at a local drama studio this year and they both love them. When auditions came for the first big play, they were both eager to try out. I hoped beyond hope that they would both either get a role or both get rejected. What happened? You guessed it – my older son got a role and my younger one did not. While it was fortunate that it was that way and not the opposite situation, it still made for some considerable gloating and jealousy.

While David had the opportunity to go out night after night for rehearsals, Isaac was stuck at home. While David got to perform in a large downtown theater five times and get catered meals, Isaac was relegated to the audience. I did try to mitigate the issues as much as possible. I reminded David that talking about the play incessantly, no matter how excited he was about it, was not being kind to his brother. I reminded Isaac that there would be other plays and he would most likely get to be in one that David wasn’t in. I also tried to spend some extra time with Isaac, doing things that he enjoyed while David was out of the house. Still, the hard feelings continued.

As a parent, I was torn. It was wonderful to see David blossom and find something he truly loves and could be good at. As some of you are aware, he has high-functioning autism. Life is hard for him. He struggles academically and socially and athletically. One of the reasons I signed him and his brother up for acting classes is that the school said that they welcomed those who were different. They said it was a place where anyone could excel. That has definitely proven to be the case. The child who fears every new situation has been excited to go to rehearsals and the performances every single time. That, in itself, is amazing.

At the same time, I did feel badly for Isaac. He wanted a part every bit as much. As much as I know that learning to be happy for someone else is an important life lesson, it still hurts to be left behind. He is the younger brother, if not by much, and most of the time he has to wait a year to do the things his brother can do. It isn’t a fun position to be in. In this case, I can’t even guarantee that he will get a role the next time. That is up to the directors and age has nothing to do with it. I can only hope.

Yes, sibling rivalry is alive and well in my household. The play is behind us now and hopefully life, and their relationship, will return to normal – at least for a while. I know, though, as they continue to grow and carve out their individual places in the world, that rivalry will continue. Despite my best efforts, I can’t eliminate it completely. My job in all of this is to continue to emphasize their respective talents and give them the parental attention they need, and hope and pray that their love for each other outweighs their need to compete with each other.

For some good suggestions on dealing with and helping to prevent sibling rivalry, please see this article from the University of Michigan Health System: Sibling Rivalry.

CatholicMatch Gift Card

2011-12-11T17:23:00.000-08:00

I'm not sure how well this would be taken, but I suppose if you KNEW someone you care about was actively looking for a special someone, giving a gift card to CatholicMatch.com would be a unique and appreciated Christmas gift. Find out more here: Catholic Match Gift Card

A Model for Teachers - St. Albert the Great

2011-12-09T18:59:00.000-08:00

I never really knew much about St. Albert the Great (a.k.a. Albertus Magnus) other than that he was St. Thomas Aquinas's teacher. This article from US Catholic discusses this patron saint of natural science's integration of theology and science and why he makes a great model for teachers: St. Albert the Great

Book Review: Lost December

2011-12-08T18:32:00.001-08:00

Lost December
by Richard Paul Evans
New York: Simon & Schuster, 2011

I am a huge Richard Paul Evans' fan. I have loved his books, going back all the way to "The Christmas Box" which started it all. That being said, I truly believe that Lost December is his best book since that original story.

A modern day retelling of the biblical telling of The Prodigal Son, the central themes of lessons learned and forgiveness extended ring true. Luke Crisp is the son of a multi-millionaire who made his money by truly caring about his employees and his customers. Luke, however, decides he wants more from life than to take over the family business. He takes his trust fund and leaves to explore the world with his so-called friends. Needless to say, this decision is not a good one.

Even going into the book with the general idea of how it will all turn out does not take away from the beauty and power of this story. Although, to some extent, it is being marketed as a Christmas story and Christmas does play a role in the turn of events, like the original story in Scripture, this is an important story for any time of the year.

The Greatest Miracle Opening in Theaters Dec. 9th

2011-12-07T17:28:00.000-08:00

People take things for granted; it's human nature. In The Greatest Miracle, opening Dec. 9 in limited release around the country, producer Pablo Jose Barroso and Dos Corazones Productions offer a 3D, animated story of hope and faith set against the backdrop of mysterious spirits and a religious service many have come to take for granted. The story revolves around three people who find themselves at the same Catholic Mass because of crises they are struggling to endure. Going to Mass is not new to any of them - but they need assistance to embrace its true meaning.

That guidance comes from their guardian angels, who help them to understand the struggle between good and evil, and the miraculous triumph of faith that manifests itself in every celebration of the Eucharist. Through their angels, they come to understand what Pope Benedict XVI described in Light of the World, his book-length interview with German journalist Peter Seewald. "Something quite special is going on here," the Holy Father said of the Eucharist. "He is here, the One before whom we fall on our knees!"

The Greatest Miracle is directed by Bruce M. Morris. He is the visual writer of the animated hits Pocahontas and Hercules, and earned an Academy Award® nomination for his work on 2009's The Princess and the Frog. Oscar®-nominee Mark McKenzie (Dances with Wolves) wrote the score for the film, which earned the 2011 Hollywood Music in Media Award for Best Original Score - Independent Film/Short/Documentary. McKenzie's work also includes Men in Black, Spiderman and Ice Age: The Meltdown.

The Greatest Miracle opens Dec. 9 on 3D screens in 14 states. A full list of theaters is posted on the film's website. www.thegreatestmiraclemovie.com

How and Why to Return to Confession

2011-12-06T17:59:00.000-08:00

Last week, I posted an article from the National Catholic Register on "How and Why to Return to Mass." Today, I offer it's counterpart, "How and Why to Return to Confession."

1 The presence of sin can easily lead to depression and anxiety.

2 You shower to show respect for those around you. Cleansing your soul makes you better to be around, too!

3 Mortal sin, unconfessed, “causes exclusion from Christ’s Kingdom and the eternal death of hell, for our freedom has the power to make choices forever, with no turning back” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, No. 1861).

4 As they leave the confessional, people smile a smile of freedom.

5 Because love means having to say you are sorry to the one you love.

6 You will grow in humility, sincerity and self-knowledge.

7 Blessed Mother Teresa went. Frequently.

8 Hoping to convert on your deathbed? That’s not very likely. Most likely, you will die as you lived.

9 It is itself a serious sin to go to Communion if you have serious sin on your soul and have not asked for forgiveness in confession.

10 Don’t be scared to death of confession. Be scared of death without confession.

11 Be strong. Face your sins; deal with them and move on.

12 Make sure there are no unpleasant surprises at your particular judgment or at the Final Judgment.

13 The priest will listen to your sins and will never tell a soul on pain of losing his soul. Priests even learn to forget what they hear.

For the full document, visit How and Why to Return to Confession

Breastfeeding Bullies

2011-12-06T17:55:00.001-08:00

I wasn't looking for this article, but happened upon it as I was searching for something else. All I can say is "Amen!"

Breastfeeding Bullies by Simcha Fischer

Bishop Timothy McDonnell on the New Translation

2011-12-05T18:00:00.000-08:00

Well, two weeks into the new translation and I'm almost to the point where I remember to say "And with your spirit" instead of "And also with you!" The other changes are going to take a little longer for me to learn.

In my parish bulletin this week was a message from our Bishop, Bishop Timothy A. McDonnell which I thought explained nicely the reasons for the new translation.

We've all heard the words:

"Four score and seven years ago, our forefathers brought forth on this continent a new nation, conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal."

Suppose, however, that Abraham Lincoln's Gettysburg Address had begun: "Eighty-seven years ago, in North America, the people of that time started a new country. It was focused on freedom and all were to be treated the same."

In that fashion, I doubt his words would be remembered today. Language does make a difference.

That is why the new Mass translations we begin today are so important. The Mass deserves more than everyday language. It deserves a language fitting for the worship of God.

The language we use at Mass is meant to take us out of the everyday and focus our minds and hearts on the divine mysteries we celebrate.

The language is different because the Mass is unique. The Mass is at the heart of our faith. It speaks to the Mystery of Faith - the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ made present on our altars. The translations we use should capture as exactly as possible the nuances of the original language in which our Mass prayers were composed.

The new translations will demand more of us. They will demand attentiveness, concentration, and prayerful reflection. At the same time, they will offer an opportunity to enter more fully into the Eucharist, God's gift of self to us. As together we experience the richness of the new translations, may we grow in appreciation of the Lord who is at the heart of our faith and of our Mass.

What is the Feast of the Immaculate Conception?

2011-12-04T19:14:00.001-08:00

“I am the Immaculate Conception.” These are the words our Blessed Mother spoke to young Bernadette Soubirous when she appeared at Lourdes in 1858. On December 8th, we celebrate the Feast of the Immaculate Conception, yet it often seems to leave many people confused. What exactly are we celebrating on this holy day?

Contrary to what many people seem to think, it is not the conception of Jesus. That feast is on March 25th – the Feast of the Annunciation. The Feast of the Immaculate Conception commemorates the conception of Mary in the womb of her mother, St. Anne.
The birthday of Mary has long been celebrated on September 8th. There is evidence that it was celebrated in the Eastern Church on that date as early as the sixth century. It would take a couple more centuries before it was celebrated here in the West. The information we have on Mary’s birth is not recorded in Scripture. Rather, it comes to us via the Protoevangelium of James written about 150 A.D. It is from this document that we have received the names of Mary’s parents – St. Joachim and St. Anne and the fact that they were childless for many years prior to having Mary.

The Feast of the Immaculate Conception was therefore set on December 8th, nine months prior to Mary’s September birthday. Originally, the Church celebrated this feast as only the Feast of the Conception of Mary. Over the course of the years, as the tradition and understanding of Mary’s conception developed, it became known as the Feast of the Immaculate Conception.

It was officially declared thus on December 8, 1854 when Pope Pius IX declared that the Blessed Virgin Mary "in the first instance of her conception, by a singular privilege and grace granted by God, in view of the merits of Jesus Christ, the Saviour of the human race, was preserved exempt from all stain of original sin." Original sin was not removed from her soul. Rather, it never existed. In the Eastern Church, this feast is still known as “The Conception by St. Anne.” For more information on the development of this feast, the Catholic Encyclopedia offers a good treatment.

On a related note, The First Council of Baltimore in 1856 declared Mary, The Immaculate Conception, as the patroness of the United States. The Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception, dedicated to the patroness of the United States and located in Washington, DC, is the largest Roman Catholic church in North America, and one of the ten largest in the world.

How and Why to Return to Sunday Mass

2011-12-02T18:06:00.000-08:00

If you have been away from Sunday Mass for a while, Advent is a wonderful time to return. This list from the National Catholic Register sums up many of the reasons why we would love to have you back!

1. It’s your way to relive the Last Supper.

2 When was the last time you prayed too much?

3 If you want to spend eternity with Christ, you need to get to know him now.

4 It’s the central, necessary activity of Christian worship (Luke 22:14-23; John 6:53; 1 Corinthians 11:23-26).

5 It’s your best way to identify yourself with Christ’s sacrifice on the cross.

6 Some of the greatest people in history were Massgoers (St. Francis, Blessed Mother Teresa, Pope John Paul II …).

7 Wise people invest money for the future. How much more should we invest in eternal life?

8 It has to be better for you than TV.

9 If you’ve been to confession, you get to receive Jesus Christ. If you find a better deal, do that instead.

10 If you knew Jesus would be somewhere, wouldn’t you go see him?

11 Guaranteed Bible readings. Countless lives have been changed by Scripture. Might yours?

12 Statistics say that people who go to church are less stressed.

13 It’s the best way to pray for your family and friends — and to cope with troubled times.

14 One out of Ten Commandments asks us to go to Mass every Sunday.

15 You’ll become a better person at Mass. The more you are a part of God’s life, the better you’ll be.

16 Life is complicated. Get directions that work — from the One who created life.

17 It’s your way to go most directly through Jesus Christ to God the Father by the power of the Holy Spirit in prayer.

18 Is one hour too much to give to God? How many do you spend on other priorities?

Read more at http://www.ncregister.com/images/documents/Advent-Mass.pdf

High School Pallbearers

2011-12-01T18:22:00.001-08:00

I had meant to post the link to this article in November, the month in which we especially remember those who have died. Alas, November got away from me. Still, the dead are with us all year long and it is ALWAYS good to remember and pray for those who have died.

The high-schoolers featured in this article are carrying out the corporal work of mercy to bury the dead every day and doing so with grace and respect. Members of "The St. Joseph of Arimathea Pallbearer Society" at St. Ignatius High School in Cleveland, Ohio serve in a ministry of "respect and care, presence and prayer."

Their mission statement is as follows:

To practice the works of mercy by offering pallbearer services free of charge to those in need, especially the poor and elderly.

To affirm the value and dignity of human life

To represent the community at a person's final commendation

To commemorate and pray for the dead

I wish one of the local Catholic high schools in my area would take up a similar cause. It is a wonderful service.

Read the full article here: High School Pallbearers

Book Review: "Giovanni's Light"

2011-12-01T00:00:00.000-08:00

Giovanni's Light: The Story of a Town Where Time Stopped for Christmas
by Phyllis Theroux
New York, Scribner, 2002 (Paperback 2010)

"Giovanni's Light" by Phyllis Theroux is a classic Christmas story - a light to give warmth on a cold winter's day. The town of Ryland Falls comes straight out of a Norman Rockwell painting - it is a place just about everyone would like to escape to. Things have always been done a certain way, and people play their roles in that tradition willingly. Except for one year when it all goes wrong.

Under the surface of that perfect world, the pain of living is taking hold and winning the battle. As Theroux writes of the tipping point: "A crack in the heart of an eight-year-old boy is not a very noticeable thing on earth. For one thing, there are so many eight-year-olds. For another, most of them have a rather small vocabulary. They don't have the words to call attention to their condition. But in that other place where all cracked, broken, lost, and hardened hearts are recorded, it was noticed right away. And when Neddie Crimmins's heart was placed gently upon the scale with all the other damaged hearts in Ryland Falls, it was considered one heart too many.

When snow starts falling and falling and falling some more until the whole town is snowed in, miracles start to happen and the good in human nature begins to shine through. This is a novella - easy to read in one sitting. It is a perfect family story - both children and adults will enjoy and benefit from it. It would be a splendid addition to your Christmas season.

Visit Amazing Catechists

2011-11-30T18:32:00.000-08:00

Lisa Mladinich is an amazing woman and an amazing catechist. Her website by the same name - devoted to helping catechists (parents teaching their children about the faith also fall into that category!) was recently redesigned and has lots of great information. Check out Amazing Catechists today!

Book Review: "The Christmas Shoppe"

2011-11-29T19:07:00.001-08:00

The Christmas Shoppe
by Melody Carlson
Grand Rapids: Revell Books, 2011

In my annual quest for Christmas stories to help get me in the holiday spirit, it was a delight to discover author Melody Carlson. When eccentric Matilda Honeycutt, known for her odd hair, clothes, and hoarding habit, plans to open a Christmas Shoppe in Parrish Springs, the business community is very nervous. City manager Susanna Elton attempts to befriend her, even volunteering her mother-in-law and young daughter to help her get ready, but the true identity of the store remains a mystery.

When she opens for business, everyone's worst fears are confirmed - there are strange sayings painted on the walls and the shelves are full of broken, worn-out items that no one would ever want. Or would they? It turns out Matilda has a much bigger mission in mind than simply moving merchandise and her efforts will help bring healing to many in the small town.

This is a charming Christmas story. It is short (this is a plus in my world!) and a quick-read, but it will make you think about the areas of your own life that could use some healing.

What do You Want Most for Christmas?

2011-11-29T08:00:00.000-08:00

It is time once again for the Christmas Novena. It begins on Wednesday, November 30th and goes through Christmas Eve. It is time to prayerfully consider what we want most for Christmas this year and bring those desires to God. I've seen different versions of how to say this novena - some say to say it 15 times a day while others have it as just once a day. However you do it, humbly request God for the blessings that you desire most this Christmas.

The Christmas Novena

Hail and blessed be the hour and moment
At which the Son of God was born
Of a most pure Virgin
At a stable in Bethlehem
In the piercing cold.
At that hour vouchsafe, I beseech thee,
To hear my prayers and grant my desires.
(Mention your request here.)
Through Jesus Christ and his most Blessed Mother. Amen.

Time to Set Up the Jesse Tree

2011-11-28T17:53:00.000-08:00

Creating a Jesse Tree is one of the Advent traditions my children and I enjoy each year. In fact, David told me this year that we were going to have a Jesse Tree this year even if he had to make the ornaments and read the Bible himself! (Life is kind of busy in our house at the moment, but I'm sure I can make time to read the Bible with David and Isaac.)

Here is a great webpage to get you started if you want to make one of your own: Jesse Tree Instructions

Celebrate Fiction! Second Annual Catholic Arts & Letters Award

2011-11-28T17:34:00.000-08:00

The Catholic Writers Guild, an organization founded to promote and nurture Catholic writers and their work, is gearing up for the second annual Catholic Arts and Letters Award (CALA) for Fiction.

The CALA for Fiction is awarded to authors of works of fiction in which judges find exemplary literary merit. All submissions must first be awarded the Catholic Writers Guild’s Seal of Approval, a process by which books are reviewed by a Catholic panel to certify that content does not disregard Catholic doctrine.

“The Guild’s mission is to lift up Catholic writers,” says CWG President Ann Margaret Lewis. “It hopes to encourage them and embolden them to create great art and compete in the world of ideas. This award recognizes well-written fiction that does just that.”

At last year’s CMN, the CWG awarded the first CALA for fiction in two categories. In the children’s fiction category, Regina Doman was awarded for her young adult novel, Alex O’Donnell and the 40 Cyberthieves. In adult fiction, it was awarded to Michelle Buckman for her novel, Rachel’s Contrition.

“It was a great privilege to be the recipient of the first CALA for fiction,” says Michelle Buckman, “especially given the high caliber of the other submissions. My hope is that this award is bringing attention to the availability of great Catholic novels. I encourage all writers to submit entries, and all readers to check out the growing list of Catholic fiction listed on the Catholic Writers Guild website.”

Regina Doman was equally thrilled to be awarded the CALA in the Children’s division.

"Catholic fiction for children and young adults provides entertainment that also reveals faith at work in our lives, and this award will hopefully make more people aware of all the great books available. I am grateful and honored to be the first to receive this award."

The deadline for 2011 book submissions is January 31, 2012. Details can be found at the CWG website – www.catholicwritersguild.com.

Moment of Beauty

2011-11-27T19:17:00.000-08:00

Yesterday, I was blessed to witness this amazing sunrise. While the picture can't fully capture how breathtaking it was, I still wanted to share it with all of you! God is truly the most amazing artist!

The Santa Club

2011-11-27T18:41:00.001-08:00

I know that some people don’t allow their children to believe in the Santa myth for a variety of reasons. My parents fell into this category. But, when my children were little, I decided to allow them to enjoy that magic while making sure that they were truly aware that the true reason for Christmas was Jesus. Belief in Santa Claus was only a small part of our Advent and Christmas celebration. They knew that Mom and Dad provided most of the presents underneath the tree but each year, Santa brought one. They also knew that they had to make or buy presents for other people. Still, that belief was important to them.

My mother broke the news to my children that there was no Santa last year – two weeks before Christmas. It wasn’t pretty. My two boys were crying uncontrollably and we made an extremely hasty retreat from Memere’s house that day.

They were certainly old enough to know the truth, and I had planned on telling them right after Christmas, but my younger son asked my mother and she had no problem at all dishing out the cold, hard facts of the situation while I could only watch in shock.

In a way, it was a blessing. She saved me from being the bearer of bad news. Their anger was directed at her, rather than me. And truly, they got over it rather quickly. Thankfully, they still had a wonderful Christmas and still enjoyed watching Santa circle the globe on the Norad Santa Tracker (a great geography lesson!)

Still, it seems like there should be a better way to handle that inevitable question. I think that Kelley Moss has found it. Sixteen years ago, her six-year-old son posed that same query to her and she was speechless. Thankfully, she was in her mother-in-law’s kitchen and the elder woman took over quickly. She explained about St. Nicholas and how he secretly gave gifts to poor children and families. When he died, others started a club to continue the tradition. This was a group of other secret “Santas” who went on to give gifts to others to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. She invited the young boy to become part of this club. He was thrilled to join, and the following year, when his younger brother was old enough to ask that same question, he was ready with an invitation to the club!

This year, Kelley Moss, a national speaker on “The Gift of Giving,” published The Santa Club, designed for parents and children to read together when the time is right. Beginning with the Biblical quote, “It is more blessed to give than receive,” (Acts 20:15) the book helps to foster generosity in children. It even contains a certificate at the end to officially designate a child as a member of the secret organization. The Santa Club has met with wonderful reviews, even winning a Mom’s Choice Award, awarded to those who create family-friendly media resources.

The corresponding website, The Santa Club, offers more information on the book as well as suggestions of ways to give.

Christmas Across Africa - Creche Exhibition

2011-11-24T19:18:00.000-08:00

African Nativity scenes are on display at the Knights of Columbus Museum’s annual Christmas exhibit Nov. 15 – Feb. 5.

The Knights of Columbus Museum presents its seventh annual crèche exhibition, Christmas Across Africa, Nov. 15, 2011 to Feb. 5, 2012. The display has nearly 100 crèches, statues and other artwork from 23 African countries and tribes, including wood and stone sculptures, Coptic icons, banana leaf Nativity scenes, polished stones and papyrus paintings.

The annual Christmas Tree Festival opens Dec. 4 featuring trees decorated with handmade ornaments by regional school children reflecting the artistic traditions of African nations.

The Museum, located at 1 State St. in New Haven, is open daily 10 am to 5 pm (though closed Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day). Admission and parking are free. For info, call 203-865-0400 or visit kofcmuseum.org.

Happy Thanksgiving!

2011-11-23T19:07:00.000-08:00

This is the prayer that was on the card from the Marianist Mission my mother sent me for Thanksgiving:

Good and gracious God, we come before You today united with all who give You thanks and praise. Fill us with gratitude for Your many blessings, both physical and spiritual.

We thank You in particular this day for the gifts of food and family. Bless this food, Lord, that it may nourish our bodies. Bless our family, especially those who can't be with us today. Also today, we remember those of our family who have gone to be with You.

Grant us Your spiritual blessings and help us pray daily for the grace to serve You in response to Your bountiful gifts to us. Bless all who serve You throughout the World.

We pray this in the name of Jesus, Your Son, Our Lord, who gives all things freely according to our needs. Continue to bless us and give us Your peace. Amen.

Praising God for Our Problems

2011-11-22T18:51:00.000-08:00

This was today's Living Faith reflection by Fr. Mitch Pacwa from his book: How to Listen When God Is Speaking: A Guide for Modern-Day Catholics

When we are upset, anxious and complaining about our problems, we are like a parked car. Our Lord can redirect us, but we resist his efforts. However, when we begin praising the Lord for our difficulties, then we are like that car in motion. Praising God for our problems and not despite them does not mean that we necessarily feel elated, giddy, or happy about those problems. We may still feel the same sadness and grief for the difficulty. However, despite our feeling, we can make an act of the will to praise God anyway. The act of the will is what our Lord can more easily redirect. Eventually both peace and joy will return, but they will come not just because we may have gotten what we wanted but because we see God present and active in our lives.

Saying Good-Bye to the Old English Translation of the Mass

2011-11-21T17:52:00.000-08:00

I know many of you are very excited about the new English translation of the Mass, but as someone who isn't particularly fond of change, I feel a bit sad about the ending of an era. It just so happened that my younger son was scheduled to altar serve at the 5:30 p.m. Mass on Sunday, so we ended up attending the very last Sunday Mass in our parish with the old translation. It was bittersweet to be there. Our pastor talked about the upcoming changes and we all read over the new placards in the pews that have the new texts.

The Mass itself isn't changing, of course, and I understand the reason for the change in the words - the more authentic translation of the Latin text and an increased reverence, but still, the old translation is the only one I have ever known. It is comfortable - an old friend, and I will miss it.

I realize that this is nothing like the change my parents went through as young adults when the Mass changed from Latin to English. I also know, in time, the new translation will flow off my tongue (well, perhaps not the word "consubstantial") and someday I probably won't even remember the old version. It will just take some getting used to. But, I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge the end of the old, before embracing the new beginning.

More than 100 Reasons to Be Thankful, Even in Hard Times

2011-11-20T17:45:00.000-08:00

Two years ago, I asked many people, both young and old, what they were thankful for in order to compile a list of 100 reasons to be thankful, even in hard times. While some time has passed since I put together that list, times are definitely still hard and the list is definitely still relevant. Looking it over, however, I decided that there were some things I would personally like to add to the list.

For many people, this has been the year of weather-related disasters. My own area of western Massachusetts has seen a tornado, microburst, hurricane, and an October snowstorm which caused an incredible amount of damage. The Federal Emergency Management Agency has been here way more than we would like. After losing our power for a full week, this year I am definitely thankful for the basics – electricity, hot water, heat, and being able to do the laundry. I am also incredibly thankful for good neighbors and friends who made going through that experience much easier. I am also very thankful for all the electrical workers and tree-removal people who came from far and wide to help – after the tornado and after the snowstorm.

In technological developments, while I don’t personally own either one, smartphones and tablet computers are constantly evolving and changing our world. I’m thankful for them as well. I’m also thankful for more traditional means of getting information. I still love to read my newspaper every morning and my children enjoy the comics. I hope that they continuing publishing for a long time to come.

That being said, I now offer you the original list. I encourage you to add your own reasons to be thankful in the comments section. No matter how hard life gets, we all have much to be thankful for. I wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving!

I am thankful for . . .

1. The health of my family.
2. Taking naps on the couch or in the backyard.
3. Driving the scenic route.
4. Community events open to the public.
5. My (flawed) relationships with God and my family, both immediate and extended. Flawed relationships are much better than none at all!
6. My wife and I have grown together and I am constantly grateful and impressed as she matures.
7. The Word of God.
8. Brief and productive meetings.
9. Quilts and blankets, to keep me warm.
10. My wonderful family and for my best friend, who has always been there with quiet support, encouragement, and words of wisdom, through thick and thin since the day we met.
11. The incredible diversity of people on this planet.
12. Co-workers who don't mind switching their days off to help you out.
13. Toys.
14. Dirty dishes because it means we have eaten. Thank you for baby giggles; they keep me sane.
15. That God made me.
16. Teddy bears.
17. The feel of a child’s hand in mine.
18. Waking up when you need to even when the alarm doesn't go off.
19. Babies.
20. The day being silent now that it's over for the little ones.
21. Movies and CDs being available at libraries.
22. The convenience of e-mail.
23. Wrinkle-free clothing.
24. Christmas lights.
25. Friends who care about me enough to tell me when I am being stupid.
26. Our Veterans.
27. Books, because I can experience the world, learn new things, laugh, cry and connect without ever leaving my couch.
28. My job, especially in this economy.
29. Religious leaders.
30. Volunteers.
31. A cup of hot cocoa on a cold day.
32. Family and friends; love them all!
33. The smell of homemade desserts baking in the oven.
34. Listening to beautiful music.
35. Friends meeting over a cup of tea; a fire in the hearth; a friendly game of Scrabble.
36. My kids, who can always make me laugh.
37. Being friends with my parents.
38. Every member of my family, especially for my mom who is a constant source of support, encouragement and friendship.
39. Enjoyable conversation between friends.
40. Hugs.
41. My family, having a job, having health insurance, and being loved as much as I am.
42. My health, even if I complain about certain aches and pains!
43. My family, my fiancé and being able to go to college.
44. Having a roof over my head.
45. Finding a dollar in an old coat you haven't worn in years.
46. Enjoyable hobbies and pursuits in life.
47. The forgiveness of God.
48. Schools and colleges.
49. A dictionary & thesaurus, both within arm’s reach.
50. Repairing an object yourself and having it come out perfectly.
51. Hot showers after a hard day of work to ease away the stress of the day.
52. The express line at the grocery store.
53. The generosity of strangers.
54. “Chick Flicks” vs. “Action Movies” and explaining why yours is more enjoyable to the "other team".
55. Tossed aside treasures at tag sales or wherever they may be found.
56. Duct-Tape!
57. Good role-models we can point to for children to aspire to emulate.
58. Indoor plumbing - imagine life without it.
59. Date nights.
60. Inspiring words that lift our souls in times of crisis.
61. Youth and amateur sports leagues to both watch and play in.
62. People who obey traffic regulations.
63. The trials and losses in my life for they have helped me become a stronger and better person!
64. Our favorite instructors and teachers.
65. People who enjoy reading what we write.
66. Chocolate!
67. Hidden places that you can sneak away to.
68. Health care workers.
69. Internet Maps and GPS devices.
70. Lucky old coins and favorite treasures, both precious and humble.
71. The spring that will come after the winter.
72. All those who came before us great and small have a story to tell. That is what history is all about. So I am thankful to be able to know and learn their stories.
73. Old libraries and their treasures which lay hidden and wait to be re-discovered.
74. People with interesting personalities who make the world better or at the very least, more interesting.
75. Brothers and sisters.
76. Word processing software.
77. Sitting in an open field on a crystal clear night and enjoying the celestial display above.
78. Our furry four-legged friends who have chosen to live their lives with us.
79. Being able to sit at a computer and just watch music videos when we are supposed to be working.
80. Sunrises, sunsets, ocean waves, hidden forests, mossy rocks and mountain streams and all the other wonderments of nature.
81. Our Guardian Angels who stay with us even when we try to refuse their help.
82. A child’s laughter.
83. The wisdom of elders.
84. Works of art.
85. Those perfect parking places which sometimes we are lucky enough to get.
86. The creative minds of others and what they share with us all.
87. Photos, for capturing a moment in time.
88. Relaxing periods of quiet during a busy day.
89. To live in a free country.
90. Bookmarks! No need to fold pages!
91. Museums.
92. Social Networking sites. I've always wanted to know what people I haven't seen since grade school are up to.
93. Sweaters, hats, scarves and gloves.
94. Search engine searches that actually turn up useful results.
95. Good listeners.
96. Parks.
97. Hand-written letters.
98. Bread, the universal side to any meal.
99. Buy one, get two free sales.
100. People who commit their lives to protecting and preserving our cities, states and country.

Blessed Hermann of Reichenau

2011-11-18T17:12:00.000-08:00

As part of the boys' schooling this year, we are reading Stories of the Saints from Catholic Heritage Curricula. I've really been impressed by this book. The stories are very engaging and I've been learning new things as well.

This week, we learned about Blessed Hermann of Reichenau. I pray the "Hail Holy Queen" every day as part of the rosary. I can honestly say that I never thought about the man who wrote it, however. Blessed Hermann was that man! He lived a very remarkable life. Here is his story (or at least the Wikipedia version):

Hermann of Reichenau (1013 July 18 – 1054 September 24), also called Hermannus Contractus or Hermannus Augiensis or Herman the Cripple, was an 11th century scholar, composer, music theorist, mathematician, and astronomer. He composed the Marian prayer Alma Redemptoris Mater. He was beatified (cultus confirmed) in 1863.

Hermann was a son of the duke of Altshausen. He was crippled by a paralytic disease from early childhood. He was born in 1013 with a cleft palate, cerebral palsy and spina bifida. [None of the sources cited just the specific diagnosis of spina bifida]. As a result he had great difficulty moving and could hardly speak. At the age of seven he was placed in a Benedictine monastery by his parents who could no longer look after him. He grew up in the monastery, learning from the monks and developing a keen interest in both theology and the world around him.

He spent most of his life in the abbey of Reichenau, an island on Lake Constance. Hermannus contributed to all four arts of the quadrivium. He was renowned as a musical composer (among his surviving works are officia for St. Afra and St. Wolfgang). He also wrote a treatise on the science of music, several works on geometry and arithmetics and astronomical treatises (including instructions for the construction of an astrolabe, at the time a very novel device in Western Europe). As a historian, he wrote a detailed chronicle from the birth of Christ to his own present day, for the first time compiling the events of the 1st millennium AD scattered in various chronicles in a single work, ordering them after the reckoning of the Christian era. His disciple Berthold of Reichenau was its continuator.

At the age of twenty Herman was professed as a Benedictine monk; he spent the rest of his life in the monastery. He was literate in several languages, including Arabic, Greek and Latin and wrote about mathematics, astronomy and Christianity. He built musical and astronomical instruments and was also a famed religious poet. [None of the references justify the claim that he could read Arabic. There were few Arabic speaking scholars in Europe at this time, and Herman could not have learned by traveling scholars]. When he went blind in later life he began writing hymns. His best known is Salve Regina (Hail Holy Queen).

Herman died at the age of forty in the monastery in 1054. The Church beatified him in 1863.

Prayer for Caregivers and Care-receivers

2011-11-17T17:28:00.000-08:00

I was going through my prayer drawer the other day and came across these two prayers, which had been sent to me from the Friends of St. John the Caregiver. I had never thought of a prayer for care-receivers, but truly, often it is harder to receive help than to give it (at least for me).

Prayer to St. John, Patron of Caregivers

Beloved St. John, from the cross Jesus entrusted to you the care of His Blessed Mother. Help me and all those taking care of a loved one who is sick, elderly, disabled or frail.

Pray for us, that as we go about our many caregiving duties, we may never lose sight of that truth which Christ revealed to His disciples: "Whatever you did for one of these, you did for Me." Amen.

Prayer to Our Lady in Need, Patroness of Care-Receivers

My Dear Mother, as you stood at the foot of the cross in need of help, your Son asked St. John to become your caregiver. Be with me now in my time of need. Pray for me and for all care-receivers, that we can accept assistance from others as gratefully and graciously as you did. Amen.

A Guest Post by Karina Fabian

2011-11-16T17:20:00.000-08:00

Food for the Poor is one of my favorite charities, and fellow Catholic Writer's Guild member Karina Fabian has come up with an innovative way to raise funds for them. Please feel free to repost this and share it with your friends. - Patrice

Dear friends and readers,

This winter, I have two things in my heart and on my mind: caring for those less fortunate than me (or indeed, much of the world) and my DragonEye, PI stories. For Christmas, I’m combining them and would like to share them with you.

Those of you who are “Vern Fans,” know about my dragon who works in our world as a private investigator, and his partner, Sister Grace, a mage and nun in the Faerie Catholic Church. They’ve saved the worlds and their friends in numerous stories and novels. Last year, I wrote a story for Flagship about their first Christmas together. Not only is Grace struggling with the Mundane idea of Christmas, but their home is threatened by a land developer who wants to tear down the entire neighborhood and make a mall. When the Ghosts of Christmas come to visit him, however, Vern and Grace have to solve the mystery before the Christmas Spirits become Angels of Death.

I have revised and am publishing “Christmas Spirits” as a serial story to raise funds for Food for the Poor. This is a wonderful charity that helps people in impoverished nations help themselves. It allows donators to choose their gifts--whether rice for a family for a month, school supplies, livestock, tools or even houses.

I'm asking that you please check out the story, and, if you enjoy it and want to see more, that you donate even a dollar to the cause. Also, if you enjoy the story, let your friends know. I'll post every Tuesday and Thursday as the donations come in. Right now, we have raised enough to send a family 20 baby chicks and are halfway to a fruit tree in addition. Vern would like to send them a cow (he is a dragon, after all), but Sister Grace and I are dreaming of raising enough to buy someone a home. Can you imagine giving a HOUSE for Christmas? Will you help?

Find the story at http://christmasspirits.karinafabian.com. You can also get to it via my website, http://fabianspace.com. Look under the Christmas dragon for the link. You can learn more about Food for the Poor at http://www.foodforthepoor.org.

If you are shopping Amazon this Christmas. . .

2011-11-16T13:13:00.000-08:00

If you are planning to get someone you love a new Kindle Fire, Full Color 7" Multi-touch Display, Wi-Fi
, a great book, or any of the other millions of items available through Amazon.com, please consider clicking through any of the links in this post or the Amazon link on the sidebar. I earn a percentage of each purchase and it helps me keep this blog running!

Thank you, as always, for your continued readership and support!

Article on "The Way'

2011-11-15T18:41:00.000-08:00

I've read quite a few reviews on the new movie "The Way" starring Martin Sheen and Emilio Estevez, but this is the best, most comprehensive, ones I have seen: Martin Sheen and Emilio Estevez on The Way. This is one movie I definitely want to see when it comes out on DVD.

Answering the Call

2011-11-14T18:51:00.001-08:00

Elizabeth Ficocelli (who I wrote about in yesterday's article) will be hosting a brand new radio show on St. Gabriel Catholic Radio. "Answering the Call" is a 30-minute program where she'll be interviewing priests, deacons, and religious sisters and brothers in the Columbus Diocese about their spiritual journeys and their religious vocations.

The show will begin airing Saturday mornings at 10:30 a.m., starting December 3, 2011. It will be preceded by Father Larry Richards at 9:00 a.m. and Fr. James Wehner (Rector and President of the Pontifical College Josephinum) with his nehttp://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifw program, Putting on the New Man: The New Evangelization at 10:00 a.m. It promises to be a great line-up of shows!

The launch of Answering The Call comes at a perfect time, when St. Gabriel is on the verge of expanding its signal to reach two thirds of the state of Ohio with a potential listenership of four million people.

Catholic radio is playing an enormous role in the evangelization of Catholics and non-Catholics across the country and around the world. If you cannot get 1580 AM on your radio dial, you can listen live on stgabrielradio.com or download archives of many of its national and local programs.

Reconciliation: Maintenance for the Soul

2011-11-13T18:36:00.000-08:00

How do you think of the Sacrament of Reconciliation? If you are like most Catholics, you probably think of it as little as possible! Or, perhaps, you think of it as something good to have available in the event you do something really, really wrong, but not something you need to concern yourself with otherwise. Or, maybe, you go every year during Lent as part of your Easter duties. You feel it is good to get that fresh start once a year.

As hard as it is to believe, the first Sunday of Advent is right around the corner. The start of a new liturgical year is a good time to take stock of one’s spiritual life. What if, this year, you changed how you think about going to Confession?
I have been reading Seven from Heaven: How the Sacraments Can Heal, Nurture, and Protect Your Family Today, a soon-to-be-published book by Elizabeth Ficocelli. She discusses many reasons why the Sacrament of Reconciliation needs to play a more important role in our spiritual well-being.

The Sacrament of Reconciliation is a sacrament of healing. When we are sick, we seek out a doctor to help us. When we are spiritually ill due to sin, going to Confession helps to heal our soul. It helps to restore our relationship with God, other people, and the Church. As Ficocelli rightly states, “What we do (or what we fail to do) affects the entire community of believers, as well as the spiritual well-being of the Church.” There is no such thing as a “personal” sin that hurts no one but the person committing it. All sin has a communal dimension.

We don’t only go to the doctor when we are sick, however. We also go in for periodic check-ups, just to make sure everything is working well and that there are no underlying issues lurking under the surface, waiting to cause problems. So it should also be with taking advantage of going to Confession.

None of us is perfect. We always have some sins on our soul. If left untended, those “minor” issues can lead to bigger problems. Reconciliation can help us keep those habitual sins under control. It provides us with God’s grace to do better and root out the sources of sin in our lives. Ficocelli encourages us “to stop thinking of the sacrament as something reserved for grave situations, and begin regarding it as an important source of grace to help us avoid sins and grow in holiness.”

Many years ago, it was a common practice for families to go to Confession every Saturday. Ficocelli shares a wonderful story of such a family. It happened that every Saturday the mother did the laundry and washed all the sheets. When the children came home from getting their souls cleaned, they were able to climb into fresh, clean beds. “The children equated Confession with the feeling of being washed clean and starting the new week fresh and new, just like their bed sheets.”

Perhaps for this coming year, you could start making going to Confession at least once a month a family affair. Children need to go to Confession regularly just as much as adults do. They need the help that it provides and it is good for them to be in the habit of going to Confession for when the more serious temptations and sins of the teen years come into play.

Yes, going to Confession can be difficult. It is humbling and forces us to face our own weakness, but I have generally found that the more frequently you go, the easier it becomes. You start to look forward to that periodic soul cleaning. Attending the Sacrament of Reconciliation regularly is an important part of keeping one’s soul in good working order. Don’t neglect this essential maintenance tool.

God's Greatest Gift

2011-11-11T19:18:00.000-08:00

I saw this advertised in a magazine today and fell in love with the image of the tiny baby resting in God's hand. What a beautiful gift for a child's birth or baptism!

Find out more at God's Greatest Gift

Cute Christian Tees for Little Ones

2011-11-10T19:12:00.000-08:00

The National Catholic Register just ran a story on Saintly Tees. Each shirt features a cute illustration with a Scripture verse or Christian saying on the bottom. Sizes available are from newborn to twenty-four months.

You can read the article at http://www.ncregister.com/daily-news/saintly-apparel-for-kids1/ or visit the Saintly Tees site at Saintly Tees. They are currently featuring special pricing for Christmas.

The Joy of Reading Aloud

2011-11-09T18:09:00.000-08:00

Many years ago, long before I had ever had children, I had met a man at a work function who spoke about how he still enjoyed reading to his thirteen year-old daughter. At the time, I thought he was a little bit strange. After all, no one in my family had read aloud to me once I knew how to read by myself. I didn't really see the point.

Yet, I now recognize the treasure this man had found. My children are 10 1/2 and 9, both are very capable independent readers, and they still ask me to read to them. I enjoy reading to them as well. I always have. I've been exposed to books I might not otherwise have read and gained entrance into the world that captivates their imaginations. By the same token, I've been able to introduce them to some books that might never have otherwise read. It can be easier to tackle a classic when Mom is the one doing the reading.

I don't know how long these read-alouds will continue. I imagine the day will come when they decide they no longer want to share stories with Mom, but I will always remember with fondness the times that we shared together curled up with a good book. I hope that they will as well.

Motherhood Matters

2011-11-08T18:20:00.000-08:00

The past couple weeks, I've been reading Motherhood Matters by Dorothy Pilarski. I first "met" Dorothy some time ago when she asked permission to use one of my articles in this book. I happily agreed. Since then, I featured some of her articles on Catholic Exchange and hope to do so on Catholic Lane as well. She is a Canadian mother, writer, television personality, speaker and consultant. Her columns are always thought-provoking.

This book is a collection of her essays (and one of mine!) reflecting on motherhood and life as a woman in this century. As she is Canadian, some of the references will seem strange to American women. For example, she expresses sorrow at the fact many women return to work after their one year of maternity leave. Sadly, six weeks is the norm here. How I wish we had such family-friendly policies!

While she touches on many other topics (my own article is about looking back at our life of prayer), her primary argument and purpose in writing the book is to encourage mothers to stay home with their children as much as possible and nurture the bond that exists between mother and child. Stay-at-home mothers will feel appreciated, vindicated, and renewed in their commitment to their vocation.

Motherhood Matters can be found at CatholicRegister.org

The Myth of Homeschooling

2011-11-08T00:00:00.000-08:00

The other day, I was half-jokingly trying to talk my friends into doing a reality show about homeschooling moms. Unfortunately, they weren't buying the idea. As one put it, "I'd much rather have people believe the myth."

The Sept/Oct 2011 issue of the HSLDA Home School Court Report features an article by Michael O. Farris on "Ten Lessons I've Learned from Thirty Years of Homeschooling," and offers this synopsis of the myth:

You have heard the stories - you know . . . the family with 12 children, all under age 9, whose 6-year-old has learned to solve three-variable algebra problems by studying the number of Hebrew syllables in the Pentateuch. Their 9-year-old has fully funded his college education by selling organic muffins door-to-door, using the ingredients his 7-year-old sister grew in the 40-acre herb farm she operates. There was enough money left over for Mom to run down to the fabric store (being sure to take all the kids with her so that she could teach a math lesson while buying material). She then bought enough material to make all of the girls matching dresses, all of the boys matching vests, and matching curtains to hang over the kitchen sink.

Ummmm. . . maybe not! But that is what homeschooling books and websites can often lead you to believe - that every moment is wonderful, every circumstance a learning opportunity, and that homeschooled children are always happy and eager to learn.

The reality on any given day can be far different. As homeschoolers, we are still on the fringe of "normal," even though there are far more of us than they used to be. We are often called upon to defend our choice and to prove our children are doing well in order to silence the naysayers. Therefore, we may be prone to paint a overly rosy picture to the outside world.

The truth is, homeschooling does have its perfect moments - moments full of the magic and wonder of learning when everything falls into place and it is all incredibly worth it. But, those moments are the exception. The reality is most of the time, we just muddle through and hope for the best. The grace of God keeps us going through the frustration, the worry, and the whining (both ours and the kids').

Those of us who choose to leave the well-trod path of traditional schooling and jump off a cliff into the world of homeschooling were called to this task. We each have our own stories, our own reasons, our own circumstances. We are all different, but we share a common lifestyle. Even amidst the messiness and the imperfection, it is a good way to live. Perhaps someday, we'll be able to be a bit more honest about what our lives look like and we'll be able to put the homeschooling myth to bed once and for all. Until then, I guess that reality show will just have to wait!

Understanding Suicide

2011-11-07T14:48:00.000-08:00

November is a month to remember those who have died in a special way. When I got in my most recent Alumni Magazine in, I noticed with sadness that one of my classmates in graduate school - Katie Keator - had passed away. She was only a few years older than I and we were, by far, the youngest students in the program at the time. I presumed she had died of cancer or some other unfortunate disease.

That was not the case. The most recent issue of The Catholic Mirror featured an article on Understanding Suicide and profiled Katie and her family. Sadly, Katie took her own life at the age of 41. Her father is a Deacon and he stated that the family wanted to be up front and honest about the cause of her death:

He wants people to see suicide as a psychological problem. "It wasn't Katie who killed herself. It was a different person, because the Katie we knew - I don't think she was capable of doing that," he says. . . ."Suicide is a mortal sin but in order to commit that you must have full awareness and consent. How can a person with a mental disorder have full consent?" says Deacon George.

During this month, let us remember those who have taken their own lives and their families in a special way. Suicide is so painful, both for those who see no other way out and for those left behind to make sense of it and, with God's help, bring some good out of it.

The Power is Back!

2011-11-06T17:33:00.000-08:00

The power came back on last night - after 7 days and 4 hours. It was such a blessing to have heat and be able to do laundry today. Never-the-less, I am mentally and physically worn out so there won't be a formal column this week. I hope to be back to writing columns next Sunday. Thank you for understanding.

Why the World Needs Special Kids

2011-11-03T13:02:00.000-07:00

In light of the fact that A Special Mother is Born: Parents share how God called them to the extraordinary vocation of parenting a special needs child is now available for purchase, I am reposting this review:

How many times have you heard an expectant mom say, “I don’t care if it is a boy or a girl, as long as the baby is healthy?” But what happens when the baby isn’t healthy? How does one’s world change when a child is diagnosed with major health issues, either before or soon after birth? Is it worth having a child diagnosed with severe special needs in utero if he won’t live long or will have a poor quality of life?

For the contributors to A Special Mother is Born, edited by Leticia Velasquez, the answer to that last question is a resounding “yes.” As a result of her daughter Christina being born with Down Syndrome, Velasquez has become a pro-life crusader, determined to change the statistic that 90 % of children with Down Syndrome are killed via abortion. The parents who share their stories in this book want to educate others about the value and joy of special needs children.

In his inaugural address, Pope Benedict XVI stated that “Each of us is the result of a thought of God. Each of us is willed, each of us is loved, each of us is necessary.” The children profiled in A Special Mother is Born have Down Syndrome, Trisomy 18, autism, brain abnormalities, epilepsy, deafness, blindness, and other challenges. Yet, they have touched the lives of their families and the world around them immeasurably. Some of the children died at very young ages – their parents speak of them as saints in heaven. These are children who never sinned. They are with God interceding for their family members. As Colleen McGuire writes of her daughter Rita who died of Trisomy 18 soon after birth, “I don’t regret one moment of her life. My daughter lived a novena: nine days of love.”

These parents acknowledge the suffering and difficulties involved in raising a special needs child. No parent ever wants to see their child suffer or struggle through life. Yet, the experience has brought them to greater trust in God. Diane Grover writes, “We realized we must surrender it all to God; we must humbly hand it all over to Him. He created this child for His purpose. He created this child for His plans. Whatever comes will happen in His time and in His way.”

Lisa Barker has learned to endure great suffering watching her daughter die. “I’d like to write that everything is going to be okay. It will be, but there is suffering to embrace that I cannot run from. Without Jesus’ life, example and presence, it is impossible to do. But with Him, it can be done, and there can be a sense of peace and joy even in the midst of sorrow.”

Most often, it is fear of the unknown that causes women to abort their special-needs children. Eileen Haupt states, “If only a mother expecting a special needs child could know who her child really is. If only she could feel the joy and the love that she will feel for her baby if she welcomes her into the world. If only she knew how many hearts would be changed by her special baby’s presence. If only she knew, she would never abort.”

There is currently a war going on against special needs children. While those with Down Syndrome have been the primary targets to date due to pre-natal testing, it is only a matter of time before other abnormalities are also targeted. While there are certainly exceptions, the majority of doctors are far too quick to suggest abortion when something is wrong with the baby. They fail to see the blessings and lessons that these children can bring to the world. They fail to acknowledge the inherent worth of every person created by God. We must fight for life for those who cannot speak for themselves.

Grab a box of tissues and read A Special Mother is Born. Whether you are the parent of a special needs child or not, these stories will open your eyes and your heart and help you to appreciate the value of every child God sends to this world.

Ready to Return to the 21st Century!

2011-11-03T12:49:00.000-07:00

For those of you who may be wondering where I have been all week, my area was hit Saturday by a freak October snow storm that wreaked havoc and knocked out power for about 100 miles. Power is slowly being being restored, although my particular section definitely seems to be last on the list and I most likely won't have power until Saturday. (I am writing this from the library the next town over which had power restored today.

We have been fortunate. My neighbor had a generator which he has shared with us allowing us to have some minimal electricity. We have a gas stove so we could cook and warm the house by having pots of boiling water on the stove. There are many people who have been much worse off. And while local schools were cancelled for the week - we only skipped Monday, although I had them just stick to the basics, so they didn't feel like they were being tortured too much!

All in all, though, I can honestly say that I am very ready to return to this century!

The Church and Domestic Violence

2011-10-28T18:22:00.000-07:00

Domestic violence is such a huge and, most often, hidden problem. U.S. Catholic has a thought-provoking article on what local parishes can do to help those who are suffering:

Let's Stop Ignoring Domestic Violence

October Baby - Important Movie About Abortion Survivor

2011-10-27T17:32:00.000-07:00

Pat Gohn gave me the heads up today about a limited release movie about an abortion survivor: October Baby: Every Life is Beautiful. Find out more about it here: October Baby. It looks wonderful!

Collin Raye Pro-Life Song

2011-10-26T18:42:00.000-07:00

From an article in the National Catholic Register:

Nominated five times as country music’s top male vocalist and author of more than a dozen chart-topping songs, Collin Raye has been a popular country performer for 20 years. Now he is putting his talents toward the cause of life, recently signing on as national spokesman for the Terri Schiavo Life & Hope Network, which seeks to raise awareness about euthanasia and the care of persons with disabilities. The network is run by Bobby Schindler, the brother of Terri; her feeding tube was removed by court order in 2005.

Raye, 51, was born in Arkansas and grew up in Texas, first performing on stage with his mother at age 7. After performing for years with his brother, he began his solo recording career. He became a Catholic at age 23 and has recorded songs with strong faith themes. In April 2010 his granddaughter Haley, died at the age of 9 of a neurological disorder she was born with. On his most recent album, Raye performs a tribute to her, She’s With Me, in which he celebrates her life as filled with love and meaning though she needed constant care.

Read more: http://www.ncregister.com/daily-news/new-voice-for-life-collin-raye/#ixzz1bwWNXxIJ

We Don't Have to Be Pretty or Smell Good to Make a Difference

2011-10-25T18:20:00.000-07:00

This is an excerpt from today's reflection by Melanie Rigney in Living Faith

Yeasts are funny things, fungi, really. They're not pretty, and some of them smell. Yet without these fermentation and leavening agents, we wouldn't have wine, beer or a host of baked goods. Yeasts begin small processed that spawn big results.

It may not seem that visiting a sick friend or helping out at a food pantry or giving money to a charity can matter much. . . But just as Jesus' ministry began small and continues to inspire billions some 2000 years later, so can our actions make a difference in the lives of our family, friends and strangers. We don't have to be pretty or smell good. We just have to be open to being part of the process.

Book Review: "Abba!! Abba!!"

2011-10-24T18:50:00.001-07:00

Abba!! Abba!!
by Lynda A. Collins
Trafford Publishing, 2006

In these days when fathers are unfortunately frequently absent from their children's lives, "Abba!! Abba!!" is a sweet children's book about a father's love - both our earthly father and our Father in heaven. A father takes his three children on an outing to the park where they get to see many animals bonding with their parents as well as have fun playing on the playground. When another boy falls and hurts himself badly, he calls out "Abba!!" and his father comes to help him.

Later on, one of the children asks her own Daddy about it and her father explains that "Abba" is the Aramaic word for father and the term that Jesus used to call his own father when he was on the cross. He tells his children, "God the Almighty Father wants all His children to know that when we fall He is right there to comfort us and hold us in His loving arms."

The book is illustrated by the author's brother-in-law, John Collins. Children will especially love the drawing of an ostrich peering out at them from the pages of the book! There is also great beauty in the image of God holding us in the palm of his hand. This would be a lovely book to read aloud with a child to help share with them the depth of our Father's love.

If You Quit, You Can't Blame God

2011-10-23T18:57:00.000-07:00

We all feel tempted to quit sometimes. Whether they are related to relationships, parenting, or work, there are moments in life when we simply want to throw up our arms in frustration and give up. And, sometimes, we want to blame God. After all, God allowed circumstances to be so hard. Obviously, God doesn’t want us to accomplish whatever it is we are trying to accomplish. Otherwise, the road wouldn’t be so full of potholes and mountains.

I recently had the pleasure of attending the premiere performance of “Present Company Excluded,” a play written by Doug Foresta. Based on the life of Herbert Roth, it tells of a young Jewish boy living in Roth, Germany in the years leading up to World War II. As Roth prepares for his Bar Mitzvah, he questions everything about God. Why doesn’t God talk to him the way he talked to Abraham? Why did God allow his mother to die? Why is God allowing his father’s business to fail and his friends to ignore him simply because they are Jewish?

Towards the end of the play, his step-mother, who Roth wants nothing to do with, is encouraging him to come with her to apply for a visa to leave Germany and go to America. His father has already failed in this task and Roth sees no point to trying again. He has resigned himself to his fate and feels that God is keeping them in Germany. His step-mother tells him that they have to keep trying, because “If you quit, you can’t blame God.”

There is a great deal of truth to that statement. Indeed, it can be very difficult to discern what God wants from us in life. There are certainly times when it seems every door is being slammed against us. It seems that there is no point in continuing and that God must want us to take a different path. Sometimes, He does.

But if that is the case, then the window will open. Other opportunities and circumstances will come our way. If we continue to pray, however, and trust that God is with us, and no other paths open up to us, then we have no reason to quit the road we are on. Yes, it may seem impossibly hard and the outcome uncertain, but we need to keep trying. We need to keep getting up every morning and do our best and leave the rest to God.

God is the one ultimately in charge. I love the statement by Blessed Mother Teresa, “God doesn’t call us to be successful, only faithful.” Our success or failure is determined only by God. He has His reasons for having us on the road we are on. The roadblocks, too, are there for a reason. Although, often it is only in looking back that we can appreciate them. As Roth stated in the play, his mother dying led to his hated step-mother joining the family. She would be the person who would ultimately save all of their lives. God does work in mysterious ways.

Yes, circumstances are hard. But, if we quit, we need to own it. If we stop trying, we can’t blame God and say that it is His fault that things didn’t work out.

To find out more about "Present Company Excluded," please visit www.dramastudio.org.

A Second Look . .

2011-10-21T10:01:00.001-07:00

I recently was sent a paperback copy of Simple Ways: Towards the Sacred. As I flipped through it, it seemed a bit familiar, but a cursory search on my blog didn't bring up a review, so I set to work to read it. As it turns out, I had read it before and found the old post today:
Simple Ways Toward the Sacred, but I'm not sorry that I took the time to read it again.

It has been well over three years since I last spent time with this book. My life is very different now. As a result, I brought a different perspective to its pages. Its reminders to focus on the simple things in life are always important, but perhaps never moreso than when we are crazy busy and there seems little time to breathe or appreciate much of everything. Life becomes a series of tasks before we succumb to sleep only to have to get up the next day and do it all again.

Gunilla Norris emphasizes the gift of our bodies, our senses, our dwelling places, and the objects that surround us. How much do we value these "simple" gifts? How often do we take them for granted?

We can choose to be mindful. We can choose to appreciate. We can choose to be grateful to God for all of His gifts. These are the important messages contained in the pages of "Simple Ways Toward the Sacred."

The 2012 New England Catholic Homeschool Conference

2011-10-20T19:02:00.001-07:00

The 2012 New England Catholic Homeschool Conference will be held May 19th, 2012 in Metheun, MA. Find out more at http://www.newenglandhomeschool.com/

My New Position with Catholic Lane

2011-10-20T17:53:00.000-07:00

This week, I finished up working for Catholic Exchange, and am pleased to announce that I am now a Senior Editor with Catholic Lane.

I hope that you will visit Catholic Lane and like us on Facebook. I'm very excited about this new chapter in my career!

Food for the Poor Christmas Catalog

2011-10-19T18:57:00.000-07:00

Food for the Poor is an organization I've started supporting this year. Of course, there are many people hungry in our own country that need help (I try to help with that cause as much as I can as well), but it is important to remember the people around the world who are dying of malnutrition, especially when you see how far just a few of our dollars can go.

$36 here might pay for a dinner for two at a casual dining restaurant. There, it can feed a child for a whole year. We have the power to make a real difference in someone's world. I invite you to check out their Christmas Catalog and see the many ways you could change one life or many lives: Food for the Poor Christmas Catalog

Celebrating the Mass Lesson Plans

2011-10-17T17:34:00.000-07:00

Explaining the upcoming changes in the Mass to children can be a challenge, especially since I would venture to say that most of us adults are struggling with them at the same time. To that end, Laura Grace at CatholicMom.com is offering Lesson Plans on Celebrating the Mass. View them here: Celebrating the Mass Lesson Plans

Book Review: "A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms"

2011-10-16T18:30:00.000-07:00

A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms: 52 Companions for Your Heart, Mind, Body, and Soul (Ave Maria Press)
by Lisa M. Hendey
Notre Dame: Ave Maria Press, 2011

There are many wonderful books about Catholic saints available. Most of you probably own some of them. Perhaps you even have some collecting dust in your home. They looked so interesting, but you never found the time to read them. So, why should you purchase another one? Because in the new “A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms,” Lisa Hendey has put together a very inspiring, practical guide to the saints designed especially for Catholic mothers.

Hendey, the founder of CatholicMom.com, wrote this book as the follow-up to her best selling “The Handbook for Catholic Moms.” In that book, she focused on the “importance of nurturing ourselves as moms in four components of our lives: heart, mind, body, and soul.” In this resource, she has profiled 52 saints and highlighted which of those four components they speak to in our lives. This book can be used on a week by week basis with the focus being on one saint per week, or one may simply wish to focus on a saint that speaks to whatever area of one’s life is in need of a little extra help at the moment.

For each saint, Hendey offers a variety of topics: a brief biographical sketch, reflections on lessons learned from the saint, popular traditions associated with him or her, a quote from the saint, a week’s worth of Scripture verses that are associated with the spirit of that holy person, activities to do either alone or with your children, a prayer asking for the saint’s intercession, and questions to ponder throughout the week. Of course, one is under no obligation to do or reflect on all of that information, but it is good to have options. Each person reading this book will find something that appeals to her and her preferred way of learning and praying.

The variety of saints that Hendey profiles should also be noted. Beginning with our Blessed Mother, “the first and best Catholic mom,” she includes many of the well-known saints you may already know and love, such as Teresa of Avila, Sebastian, Maria Goretti, Patrick, Martha of Bethany, John Paul II, and Mother Teresa of Calcutta. But, she does seem to have made a concerted effort to focus on saints that are less well-known. It is possible that readers may find some new friends in the communion saints as they read and reflect on individuals such as Josephine Bakhita, Isidore of Seville, Louis and Marie-Azelie Martin, Chiara “Luce” Badano, and André Bessette.

In “A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms,” Lisa Hendey has compiled and created a very useful and inspirational book. It can be used alone, with your family, or as part of a Catholic women’s book club. No matter how it is used, your life will be enriched as a result.

What if Jesus was Sitting Right Next to You?

2011-10-14T17:53:00.000-07:00

This tip comes from one of my homeschooling friends. When her children want to watch something inappropriate, she asks them if they would watch it if Jesus was right next you.

That's actually a good standard for all of us, don't you think?

Pray a Rosary a Day

2011-10-13T18:21:00.000-07:00

This is a good article for the month of the Holy Rosary: Pray a Rosary a Day